What Women HATE Most About Single Guys

If you listen to a group of attractive, single women talking alone over dinner or drinks, the topic will always turn to MEN.

And in most cases, it will eventually turn into a RANT session about how hard it is to find good men to date...

Which will lead to a FULL-ON RAG SESSION about men in general...

...And wind up with a detailed list of all the traits guys have that are ANNOYING AS HELL.

The reality is that single women have an entire laundry list of traits, qualities, and characteristics that they HATE in single guys.

Did you know this?

I didn't think so.

Well, the truth is that up until a few years ago, I didn't know this either.

So take heart in the idea that you're about to learn something that most men on this planet will DIE not knowing.

My hope is that what I'm about to share with you will change how you interact with women FOREVER... and help you meet and date more of the kinds of women you're interested in.

Onward.

FRIENDSHIPS AND ROMANCE

For women, friendships and romantic relationships are two separate things. They are NOT the same.

One can lead to another, but it's RARE when it happens.

Remember that.

One CAN lead to another, but it's RARE.

"Romantic" relationships are very different from "friend" relationships.

While most men would sleep with most of their female "friends" if the woman "came on" to them, most women would NOT sleep with most men that they consider "just friends".

But why is this?

How do women differentiate between "just friends" and "I'll be intimate with you"?

And why is it so hard to become "more than friends" with a woman you've been "just friends" with for a long time?

The answer to this riddle is very interesting to me.

I believe that the answer comes down to understanding HOW women "know" when they want to "be intimate" with a man... and, even MORE importantly, understanding how women "know" when they DON'T want to "be intimate" with a man...

The thing that tells a woman whether the guy she's with is "friend" material or "lover" material is how she FEELS.

It's a combination of EMOTIONAL feelings and PHYSICAL feelings.

It is NOT logic.

She might USE logic to "rationalize" her decision... or she might USE logic to SOUND like she has a good reason for either "being with" or "not being with" a particular guy.

But don't let that distract you.

Logic isn't important AT ALL in this context.

So let me say this another way.

A woman FEELS something emotionally and/or physically, and then she uses those FEELINGS as the basis for her "decisions" and actions with a particular guy.

If she feels that "Ewwww Yuck!" feeling, then her "logical" conclusion will probably not be that she wants to date the guy in question.

If she feels that "It's Gettin' Hot in Here" feeling, then her "logical" conclusion will probably be that this guy is interesting and attractive, and a good "choice" to date. At this point she'll take ACTION on her feelings and thoughts...

It goes like this:

FEEL--->THINK--->ACT

First the FEELING, then the THOUGHT... and THEN the action.

Now, with this in mind, let me ask you an important question:

How do most guys behave around women that they're "romantically" interested in?

And another:

What do they do to get the woman that's the object of their desires to be with them?

Take a few minutes to think about this. Make a list if you have paper and pen handy.

I'm serious. I'll wait.

Come back when you're finished.

Now take a look at your list.

I'll bet that almost every single thing on your list was something "external".

In other words, your list probably contains things like "Take her to dinner" and "Give her compliments" and "Buy her flowers" and "Call her often".

These are all things that demonstrate that he's INTERESTED.

They are NOT things that trigger those emotional and physical feelings inside of a woman that tell her that THIS IS THE GUY.

In other words, men try to use "props" to LET A WOMAN KNOW HE'S INTERESTED...

...HOPING that when the woman sees these displays she'll be interested in him.

Almost NONE of the things men do to court women make women FEEL ANYTHING even remotely similar to "Attraction" and "Arousal".

Of course, you know this.

You've probably done this stuff about a bazillion times. I have, too. I know what it's like to try OVER AND OVER to let a particular woman know that I'm interested... only to have her NOT RESPOND in a "romantic" way.

The PROBLEM with this kind of thing is that it makes TWO HUGE MISTAKES at once.

First, it's just the plain-old wrong way to go. Telling or showing a woman that you "like her" has no effect on how she feels about YOU.

In the moment it sure seems to make sense... "If I show her how I feel, she'll return the feelings".

Duh.

Like I said, it seems like the right thing to do in the moment (when your inner little girl has a big fat crush). But it's not... it will have NO effect on her feelings for you.

And second, it communicates clearly that YOU DON'T GET IT. It tips a woman off INSTANTLY that you're not hip to what's going... and it kills your chances with her.

Say what?

You mean that doing nice things for women and trying to show how you feel can actually HURT your chances with a woman?

Yea, it can.

Look, if you've been dating a woman exclusively for six months, and her birthday comes... it's OK to buy her a gift and tell her that you like spending time with her.

YOU'RE ALREADY IN A RELATIONSHIP.

But if you've known a woman for six DAYS and you try this kind of thing, you're going to shoot yourself in the foot.

Women are EXPERTS at recognizing men who DON'T GET IT. And if you DON'T get it, PLUS you're trying to compensate for the fact that you don't get it with gifts and compliments, then you're REALLY screwed (or not screwed, as the case may be).

Remember what I'm about to tell you.

Burn it into your mind.

Write it on a sticky-note and put it on your computer monitor...

SINGLE, ATTRACTIVE WOMEN WATCH MEN TRY TO WIN THEM OVER ALL DAY LONG. THEY KNOW WHEN A GUY DOESN'T "GET IT"... AND

THEY'RE ANNOYED WHEN A GUY WHO DOESN'T "GET IT" JUST KEEPS TRYING AND TRYING AND TRYING.

Keep in mind that single, attractive women watch guys do this stuff 24/7. They shake their pretty heads and say "He doesn't get it... He doesn't get it... He doesn't get it" over and over and over.

The point is that if you DON'T GET IT, then nothing you do is going to work for you.

The problem is bigger than you can imagine, and you're going to need to take a totally different road to get where you're going...

WHAT ATTRACTIVE WOMEN HATE MOST ABOUT SINGLE GUYS...

Let's return to where we started.

There are a few particular things that REALLY annoy single, attractive women.

One of the reasons that these things annoy women is because they're DEAL KILLERS.

A woman can like everything about you, but if you do these things (or even ONE of these things); it can DESTROY your chances of success with a particular woman.

Here are a few of the BIG things that single women hate:

1) Giving Up Your Status In Exchange For Her Attention and Approval

If I had to describe the one single thing that both annoys women and DESTROYS a guy's chances, it would be this.

It has taken me a long time to see this particular pattern, but it's EVERYWHERE.

Men, in effect, say "Hi, I want your approval and attention. I'm willing to let YOU be the one who's in control... and let YOU call the shots... and do anything to please YOU... if you'll give me your attention and approval".

But the problem is that women DON'T WANT you to give up your status and "manliness".

Women aren't ATTRACTED to men who act weak and tentative.

Women secretly HATE IT when a guy does something to demonstrate that he'll give away his power in return for approval.

THEY HATE IT!

I could literally write an entire book on this one single concept.

Take a few minutes to think this one over, and maybe write down the ways that you make this mistake with women.

More importantly, think about how you're going to STOP DOING IT IMMEDIATELY.

2) Being Needy, Clingy, and Insecure

When one person "clings" to another person "psychologically", the person who is being "clinged to" RESENTS and REJECTS the needy, clingy emotional parasite...

This is WUSS behavior at its worst.

If a guy is on the phone with a girl he just met, and she says "Hey, I have to go", he might say "Aw, well... um... OK. Um, will you call me when you get home?".

Or let's say a guy and a girl are out on their first date, and they're walking around in a large department store.

Most guys will follow the woman everywhere, and not leave her side for a minute.

If she wanders away, he'll come find her IMMEDIATELY.

He'll stay physically close to her, as if he's afraid she'll leave without him.

And an even worse example is a guy who is so emotionally insecure that he actually ASKS a woman to tell him that he's nice, fun, interesting, etc.

"Do you think I'm interesting?"

"Do you think we could ever have a relationship?"

"Am I your type?"

Women HATE this stuff. It makes them shiver with the heebie-jeebies. It makes them want to RUN AWAY.

3) Not Leading - And Even Worse, Trying To Get Her to Lead

Women have WUSS-DAR.

One of the things that trigger a woman's WUSS-DAR is a man who FOLLOWS.

The REAL problem is that most women won't try to LEAD naturally.

So you've got a situation where a man is trying to FOLLOW a woman who isn't LEADING.

He's looking for little cues so he knows where to go and what to do... but he isn't getting them.

So what does he do?

He ASKS for them!

He says "So, I was thinking of maybe taking you to Olive Garden for dinner... how does that sound?”

Everything about the way he asks says to the woman "I'm trying to figure out what you want me to do... please help me know how you want me to act, where you want me to take you, and what you want me to say".

This is ATTRACTION DEATH!

Men who don't lead, and even worse, tries to get a woman to lead, ANNOY THE HELL OUT OF SINGLE WOMEN.

They HATE IT!

4) Using Insecure, Approval-Seeking, Low-Status Posture, Gestures, Voice Tone, and Body Language

There's a term that single, attractive, in-demand women use to describe men who use weak, approval-seeking posture, gestures, comments, and mannerisms...

The term is "NICE".

"He's nice... but... there's no chemistry."

This is one of those areas that's not easy to talk about.

Since SO DAMN MANY GUYS do this stuff, it's almost impossible to explain.

It's like trying to tell a fish that they're not going to get anywhere in life if they stay wet.

The fish doesn't even KNOW it's wet in the first place.

But let me try.

This is important.

Go spend a day observing couples.

Go places where couples that have just met spend time together.

Bars, clubs, coffee shops, whatever.

Now watch the GUYS.

Watch how they lean towards the women.

Watch how they raise their eyebrows in exaggerated response to women's comments.

Watch how they slump over, let their shoulders fall forward, and smile fake-ly at whatever the women say.

If you're close enough, listen to how men ask questions and make comments with a voice tone that says "I'm insecure and I'm trying to be extra nice to compensate for it".

You'll see it EVERYWHERE.

In fact, you'll see it so much that you'll probably write me back to tell me that I'm the one who's crazy, and that since it happens so much, it must be "the right way".

Well, it's not.

If there's one thing that triggers an attractive single woman's WUSS-DAR, it's a man's posture, gestures, eye contact, voice tone, etc.

It all happens in an INSTANT.

Women read this stuff and interpret it as instantly and accurately as you read and interpret the cover of Playboy.

NO ANALYSIS NECESSARY.

I'd say that probably 90% of all men alive today INSTANTLY disqualify themselves with women because of this problem.

Their voice tone, gestures, posture, etc. TELEGRAPH the message that they're a WUSS.

They do a thousand weird little things to let a woman know that they're uncomfortable and "not being themselves".

And you guessed it...

Single women HATE IT!

5) Not Understanding that she’s A Woman and you’re A Man

I'm about to get philosophical on your ass, so be cool.

When it comes down to it, most men don't understand women.

But the REAL kicker is that most men don't understand MEN, either!

Most guys don't know what it's like to get in touch with their MALE NATURE.

Combine these two issues, and you get a guy who behaves in ways that DO NOT trigger ATTRACTION in women.

Women have a "nature". A female nature.

Men also have a "nature". You guessed it, it's a MALE nature.

Women are coy. They like to play hard to get. They like to enjoy the chase. They love anticipation. They love to "let a guy catch them"...

Men are competitive. Men are dominant. Men like to play rough games, win things, and rule their territory.

Well guess what?

Most men don't BEHAVE like men when they're in the presence of a woman that they "like".

And since most men don't understand female human nature, they don't demonstrate that they "get it" when they're with women that they "like".

Women like men. Men like women. There are POWERFUL causes at play here.

When you're around a woman you like, don't act like a GIRLY-MAN. It's not sexy, and it's not attractive...

And single women HATE IT!

6) Not Being Interesting To Be Around

Underneath most behavior that I see most guys acting out is a "core belief" that goes like this:

"I don't believe that an attractive woman would want to be around me just because she enjoys my presence... so I make up for it by saying and doing certain things that I hope she'll enjoy... and if she enjoys those other things enough, then maybe she'll want to spend more time with me."

Heavy, man.

Well guess what? Most attractive single women KNOW that if a guy isn't interesting to be around, they she's eventually going to go CRAZY being around him.

In other words, no amount of material gifts, compliments, dinners, and other "displays" will EVER compensate for a lack of BEING INTERESTING.

Here's a profound thought:

I and several other guys I know have many women who call us often... just because they enjoy being around us.

These women would be happy just to be in the same room with us... and enjoy our company.

And yes, these women CALL US.

Often.

Material gifts, food, flowers, and other "displays" have ZERO lasting value to a woman when it comes to how she FEELS about you...

An attractive single woman wants a guy who LIGHTS HER UP. She wants to FEEL GOOD.

She wants mystery... she wants to laugh... she wants a challenge... she wants sexual tension...

If you're using compliments, gifts, food, and other "displays" to get a woman's attention... you need to ask yourself a tough question:

Is it because you don't believe that a woman would want to be around you just to be around you?

Because if you don't know how to be INTERESTING to a woman, then no amount of compensation is going to fix the problem.

If you're boring, predictable, and uninteresting, then you're never going to have women calling YOU to hang out.

Oh, and women HATE IT.

7) Not Understanding Attraction

This is a BIGGIE.

You hear me talking about it all the time, right?

Maybe now that you've read this newsletter you'll have a better context to understand what I'm about to tell you...

If you "get it" with women, it's SUPER INTERESTING and ATTRACTIVE to them.

Women can INSTANTLY FEEL IT when they're with a guy who "gets it".

Women know very quickly if they're talking to a guy who understands himself and women... and who enjoys creating and building sexual tension.

Women know if a guy speaks the SECRET LANGUAGE of "Sexual Communication".

If he doesn't, then she stops all communication on that level.

If he does, then it continues.

ATTRACTION Isn't A Choice.

Attraction is an emotional and physical RESPONSE... and you can't "convince" a woman to feel it with logic, gifts, and NICENESS.

Attraction is the result of a woman meeting a man who understands how attraction works... and who knows what to do in each specific situation to progress to the next level.

The PROBLEM with ATTRACTION and with success with women in general is that the things you need to DO to be successful are NOT OBVIOUS.

They're "counter intuitive", in many cases.

In other words, they're the OPPOSITE of what you'd THINK would make sense.

You have to do things like CREATE TENSION... stop doing something that she likes... give her time to miss you... etc.

And if you don't understand ATTRACTION, a woman is going to KNOW IT.

And guess what?

Single women HATE IT when a man doesn't understand ATTRACTION and how to communicate on this "other level".

Now that I've shared the mistakes, you need the next piece of the puzzle. You need to get an education on how attraction works for women... and the RIGHT things to do up front to give her those emotional/physical feelings inside.

Right now you're probably feeling that excited "Ah Ha!" feeling.

That's because you understand something at a different level... you've used your mind to understand something complex... and you feel good about bettering yourself.

Well this is just the TIP of the iceberg.

As educational as this has been, this is only the beginning.

If you're starting to realize how important it is to get this area of your life handled, then I recommend you make a commitment and take your education to a WORLD CLASS level.

And what's the best way to do that?

Well, I've spent the last several years of my life figuring out exactly what does and doesn't work with women.

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Mini-Rules For Approaching Women

Mini-Rules For Approaching Women

1. Make sure you are in the right avenue for approaching (I.E. not at a funeral)

2. Avoid picking up angry/sad looking women.

3. Figure out what you're going to say before you say it.

4. If she's giving one-word answers, leave, she is not interested or attracted to you.

5. Just do it, and don't over analyze!

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Flirting tips - or how to pick up and get laid the easy way 1.4

• This one is just dirty

Tease her with attention. While you are macking on a particular girl, go away after you've talked for a while and begin talking to someone else. Try to make it a male friend you go talk to, or she will think your a player... (let's make that OUR secret, ok?). This will drive her crazy, and if you've made a decent impression on her, she won't be able to think of anything except you... and when your going to come back. Some of the bolder females out there may even come and butt into your new conversation. However, if she does not, go back after a short period of time and you will find her most happy that you did.

• Tickle tickle tickle

Once you think she feels comfortable around you, and if it would be appropriate given the current situation, ask her if she is ticklish. If she answers yes or maybe, proceed with the tickling. If she answers no, say "I think your lying" and proceed with the tickling. From my observations, I would say that eight out of ten girls are ticklish. Plus, if she really likes you and is truly not ticklish, she will fake it anyway. Tickling is a very good trick to use because it involves touching, and you should touch her whenever possible. I can't really explain it, but for some reason women respond very well to the touch, as long as it's delivered in a respectful manner (no ass or boob grabbing people).

• The seductive smile...

Upon making eye contact with a woman that you are interested in, always smile. I'm not talking about one of those huge "say cheese" smiles, rather a smirk (maybe a little bit more than a smirk) that says "I'm happy you've looked at me". Once smiling, hold the gaze for 1-2 seconds, then look away. After looking away, try to get her to make eye contact with you again, if this happens go over and talk to her, because her second look was your invitation.

• Do this... but watch out for a cat fight!

While you are talking to a group of girls, always remember to flirt with ALL of them, even the ones that you don't find attractive. This will put them into "competitive mode", in which all of the women will begin to try to win your affection because of your display of interest in each of them. Once this is accomplished you will be able to have your pick out of any of them, because the woman you choose will feel like she is the "winner". Every girl wishes to feel like she is the best looking in her group, and if you help her achieve this goal, you will become her player in shining armor :)
aritcle thanks to www.becomeaplayer.com

Flirting tips - or how to pick up and get laid the easy way 1.3

• Let's go back to school...

Tease those girls, they like it! Remember back in 2nd grade when girls had "cooties" and you'd tease them, fight with them, and pick on them? Sure you do! It's time to go back to 2nd grade people, because women still respond positively to this. Teasing them lets them know that you are playful and could care less what they (or anyone) think about you. Women love care-free men that do what they want... and I know that you want to pick on them sometimes. Why? Because it's fun... and girls just wanna have fun, and they want a guy that they know they can have fun with. BE THAT GUY and you'll get more girls.

• Just touch her already, you'll probably like it:)

KINO KINO KINO! Touch those girls man! Touching is the most important part of flirting. Want to let a girl know that you like her? Touch her! Want to make a girl like you more? Touch her! Want to let a girl know that your not scared to touch her? Ok, you get my drift. Simply touch her hand or wrist, maybe even her arm and you will do all of the above. This is easy to do, it just takes some balls... so go out and a limb and touch hers :)

• And they say WE think about it all day long

Woman constantly talk abound finding their soul mate, knight in shining around, prince charming, etc. DON'T fall for this! This may be true that they all want these things deep down... but on the surface they are just as horny as we are! With that in mind, save the romantic relationship-based stuff for afterwards, the REAL way to a woman's heart is through her pants. Get her turned on and show her who's "the man" in bed, then she will fall in love with you.

• Surprize! But it ain't your birthday!

This is one of my favorite tricks to use in order to get that "first kiss" without all of the anticipation and awkwardness. Simply do the following, but make sure she has warmed up to you first, or she may get pissed: Ask her if she likes surprises, if she says yes... kiss her. If she says no, kiss her anyway, and then say "My bad, I forgot you didn't like surprises". This seems to work extremely well for me, and it's an easy, yet creative method to use.
aritcle thanks to www.becomeaplayer.com

Flirting tips - or how to pick up and get laid the easy way 1.2

• On the rebound

Whenever a girl that you are talking to brings up the subject of her ex-boyfriend, you've got to immediately change the subject every time she does... the last thing you want is for her to think you are a "shoulder to cry on". If you learn that she had just recently gotten out of a long-term relationship it's kind of a sticky situation... you can most likely get her to want you in terms of sex/messing around... but after a relationship that lasted that long its too soon to pressure her into a relationship, it could possibly scare her off. The best thing might be to first get her in a playful mood or at least happy (and most importantly not thinking about her ex and realizing how much fun she is having without him) then explain to her that you want her to be your girl but you don't want to rush anything... tell her that you'll move at her pace and if she wants you to back off a little and slow down all she has to do is say so and you will... then tell her that you don't like playing games and if she wants to be your girl she going to have to tell you.

• It was an accident, I swear!

Here is a good one I used a few times back in school... but it'll require some balls on your part. What you do is bump into her in the hallway and make sure you knock her books down (if she doesn't normally carry them then carry yours and when you bump her drop them) then when you both bend down to pick them up say something like "Wow, I've seen you in the hall a few times and thought you were kind of cute, but from up close your gorgeous" then tell her you want to chill with her after school and say "is there a number I can reach you at?" Make sure you ask for her number like that because it works 100 times better than "can i have your number", and you don't have to use that same compliment, you can use anything that you really like about her... if she is the type of girl that likes to dress impressive or look like she cares a lot about what clothes she wears (most are) then that might be the way to go... girls like that dress nice because they are hoping someone will notice and say something... you'll make her day if you tell her that her shirt/jeans look cool and she will like you a lot more because you noticed.

• Your the man!

Act like your the king of the world. Be rude, but not enough to offend. Make yourself appear dominant in everything that you do... even if your not good at it! Tom Cruise can't really kick anyone's ass, but he sure looks like he can in his flicks, right? It's all about the illusion, people would rather see something that looks good than something that works better, master the illusion and you'll master the girls. Let them think you've got money even if you don't. Make them think you get all of the girls even if you've never been laid before. This is very easy to do, be creative... you can take this as far as you want to go with it!

• Just do it... do it... DO IT!

Never ask a girl if you can kiss her! Just do it. This is one of those situations where females like to see a man that can take control and do what he wants, so show her that you've got the balls and just do it. If you ask her for permission in advance she'll think that your scared to be a man, and even if she still lets you kiss her... she'll think less of you afterward.
aritcle thanks to www.becomeaplayer.com

What makes an alpha male

Girls are attract to alpha males, we all know this. It's built into them just like it is built into us to stare at a nice rack or ass... we simply can't help it, and neither can they. Right now I am about to explain the #1 thing that separates the alpha males from the rest of the pack... and no it is NOT confidence. You can have so much confidence that it seeps out of your ears but will still always be out done by someone that has this quality : Initiative. Initiative means that you are always first, and make sure of it.
You are the first to make a move in all situations : You walk straight up to a girl and initiate a conversation with her instead of waiting for her to come to you, you never walk behind other people when walking in a group... you stay in the front, you are the first to go when participate in activities like sports, you always go for the first kiss without asking, you always make the first move towards sex and always lead the girl to the bedroom, you are always the one who drives when you go out with others.
Get the idea?
Many guys have confidence, but not all of them can be called true alpha males because they lack initiative... and that is the trait that defines a true alpha male. At all times you should guarantee that you have the initiative, especially when you are in the presence of the opposite sex... even fight for it if you have to.
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MUST Rules for becoming more attractive...

# Variety is the key, switch up your hair style, cologne, and outfits on a regular basis. Women love men that they can not predict. You don't want to be viewed as being boring, do you? It would also be a good idea to have something unique about your appearance that sets you apart from the crowd, this will help to get you noticed more often by women and even approached by them. Having a unique appearance is one of the main ingredients to being viewed as someone who is interesting and a person that people will want to know more about.

# Always wear nice shoes. As men we may not notice anyone else's shoes, or care what ours look like most of the time. However, I can assure you that women do notice and this can be just the edge that you need. Woman typically like to classify men by the type and status of the shoes that we are wearing. For example, if a man is wearing crappy, worn down boots then most women will assume that he is a worker that makes very little money... and also doesn't care much about his appearance. However, if you slapped a brand new pair of sneakers on that same guy, women will think that he has a decent job and takes pride in what he looks like. This can make all of the difference in the world.

# Always wear cologne, and I'm not talking about cheap cologne like Preferred Stock. This rule is particularly important if you are frequenting bars and clubs looking for women, because you will be around many other people and a lot of smoke. The last thing you want is to show up at an after party smelling like a smoke bomb and other undesirable things. Every player should take the time to investigate different types of high end cologne and choose one (or many) that he feels is right for him.

# Women are attracted to courageous men, so never appear to be afraid of anything. If you are a wuss and you can't help it, I suggest avoiding situations that may produce confrontations, etc. If you are going to take on the role of the woman-getting alpha male, you must be fully prepared to defend that status even if it means getting into conflicts with other men or doing various things that you are uncomfortable with.

# Always iron your clothes before you go out. Better than that, iron your clothes before you go anywhere, you never know who you'll run into. Having wrinkles in your clothes can greatly affect how attractive women find you. Why do you think women find gay men so attractive? They pay close attention to their appearance and always make sure that they are looking top notch in any situation, so there is no reason why you should not do the same. Having a nice, clean appearance does NOT make you a metro sexual, it simply shows that you care about what you look like.

# While at a bar or nightclub, observe what type of clothes other men that are successful with the ladies are wearing, this will give you a general idea of what to wear. I can't tell you exactly what to wear because fashions tend to vary depending on where you live, but one simple rule to remember is: Dress to impress, always try to over-dress for the occasion. Women almost always assume that the best dressed men in the building are the most successful/highest paid. I'm not telling you to dress in a way that will only attract gold digger, but rather to dress in a way that will make others say "Wow, he looks like someone important."

# Develop a slightly arrogant, upright walk. Your walk greatly reflects how confident you are, and you should know by now that women love confidence. Plus always remember to keep your chest out and shoulders back, this will make you appear to be wider and stronger than you actually are. You want to give the impression that you are a man who is accustomed to getting women all of the time, and in order to do so your body language must show it.

# Always have breath mints or gum on you at all times. If you are talking to a woman and she smells bad breath, this will pretty much ruin your chances of EVER getting a kiss from her. Even us men would be reluctant to kiss someone with dragon breath. Would you kiss a super model if her breath smelled like sour milk?

Article THANKS to becomeaplayer.com

Seducing girls - "almost" a complete guide But very good article

Improve appearance on day to day basis. Get organized - written goals/plans. Focus on these 3 areas:
-Gym & nutrition. Girls seem to value strong/raw physique much more than genetic good looks. This alone will transform seduction from a difficult mountain climb to a walk in the park. Girls will be much more cooperative early on. It is an absolute must.
-Dress with distinct style. Take it to the extreme in clubs/disco. Groom adequately. If odor/rash problem, try 5%vinegar instead of soap.
-Improve vibe/body language habits (see app. A)

Go to coffee shop/mall/pub/bar/club at least twice a week. On your way there, first focus on total relaxing - shut down all other thoughts (especially thoughts about girls). Then consider the incredible coincidence that put you into existence. Think about how lucky you are and how great life is compared to not existing. Really feel the gratitude for being alive, and put a big smile on your face. Continue focusing on this and other things you appreciate (see app. B).

When you arrive, all happy and relaxed, your first mission is to find something inside this environment that you appreciate. Then, turn immediately to the nearest girl and tell her. Say something like "I love this song!" or "Wow.. this couch is so soft.. and I love this texture!" (rub the material slowly). If you see a nice girl, tell her immediately (no delay) . Say something like "You look happy!" or "Aww.. you are so cute!" or "Nice hair! Is it real?" or "That shirt looks good on you!"...

Do not try to observe her reaction. Just continue smiling and commenting on things. Sit/stand with your side towards her. Keep everything light and relaxed. No need to talk non stop. Mix in some teasing and humor (see app. C for inspiration).

When she starts asking about you, say "Guess". Then dodge with joke answers (see list). Then break yourself off in middle of telling. Then try _obviously_ to change the subject. Girls find this little game of secrecy very exciting.

When she starts smiling a lot, tell her she smells good. Stroke her lightly. Talk less. Sit closer.

The end.


Appendix A - Vibe/BL

Attractive body language (BL) habits:
-Posture (straight as if pulled up by the back of head)
-Relaxed (eye lids, face, neck&shoulders, breathing etc)
-Spread out (occupying much space)
-Grace (move deliberately and slightly slowed - a bit like tai chi)
-Distant (as if surroundings are not very important - see BL note in app. B)

The 3 main seductive vibes:

Alpha Male - extra slow, arching neck, extra spread out, expand torso as if air balloon inside being filled. Effective for making girls notice you.

Exercise for learning alpha BL: Close your eyes and conjure mental picture of you being leader and protector of your tribe. Notice the BL details and how powerful and dominant you look. In your mind, climb into the picture and walk over to the alpha you. Step inside and become the alpha you with your BL. Notice how it feels. Find out what color do you associate with this feeling, and where in your body this feeling comes from. See how the feeling/color flows out from this place and fill every part of your body from the top of your head to the tip of your toes. Make the feeling intense and the color bright all over your body. Imagine a volume button in the spot where the feeling comes from. Paint it in the same color and notice what it looks like. Imagine it slowly turning the feeling up to double intensity. Then gradually all the way up to 10 times as intense. From now on, turning this dial will boost your alpha vibe no matter what, so no need to think about the details.

Post Coital - extra emphasis on being relaxed and comfy. Extremely laid back and 'chill'. Slightly narrow eyes and some sleepy stretching. Totally unworried and distant, not caring about surroundings. Effective for making girls curious about you. Practice: Imagine having had crazy sex all night and now totally exhausted. Step into this image like described above.

Horny - unlike other two, strongly aware of girl (facing and looking at her). Very relaxed face with low eye lids and open mouth. Heavy breathing, lick/bite lips, let eyes wander down to girl's body. Effective for turning girls on. Practice: think of something that makes you horny and notice how it affects your BL. Intensify feeling. Intensify BL. (credit GunWitch)

Note on learning all this:
Only way to improve BL-habit is daily practice. Create a daily ritual where you first practice BL and then go into each of the 3 seductive attitudes. Do it together with something you already do every day (brushing teeth, walking to office etc..), so you never forget to practice. Make a small list of the things you want to practice, and keep it in bathroom. Also, whenever you catch yourself having bad BL (hunched, tense, hurried etc..), correct it at once.


Appendix B - Appreciate

Appreciation is to hold something in your mind with gratitude. When doing this, bad feelings are shut down and good feelings are strengthened. When a person is in this mental mode, its easy for others to see - its as if the bliss/happiness is bleeding out from every pore. Those feelings are contagious, so others will start to feel good too, even if they don't know why the person is happy. This creates a feeling of friendship and GOOD INTENTIONS. This is why appreciation is the ideal mental frame to be in when meeting new people (and socializing in general).

When focusing on things you dont have, you open your mind to the feeling of need (wanting something). This is the opposite of appreciation and leads to feelings like frustration, insecurity, sadness, discontent and so on. This is also easy for others to see, and it makes others insecure and uneasy about you. They can see you want something. They DOUBT your good intentions. This is why need is the WORST POSSIBLE frame for meeting people.

Needy people suffer from habits of seeking validation from others. Two things must be done to end this habit. The first is to focus your mind on appreciation - stop dwelling on all the stuff you want, and learn to appreciate areas that already satisfy you. Practice this every day. I recommend you do this during a daily routine like teeth brushing. Go through all the things that are going well and take moments to really feel the gratitude for each one.

Secondly, focus on appreciation when you socialize. Look actively for positive qualities in others, and let them know you noticed. Also look for positive things about surroundings or situation and talk warmly about them. Also talk about good experiences you have had lately, emphasizing how good it made you feel. Discipline yourself to steer all conversations down this path. In no time, this will transform you from a needy guy, to the type of guy everyone love to hang with.

A note on BL: Neediness (validation seeking) materializes itself as a large 'awareness radius' (how far away from yourself, you are aware of whats going on). To avoid sending out this bad vibe, try this little mind trick: Imagine a sphere around you. Everything outside the sphere doesn't exist. Then make the sphere as small as possible.


Appendix C - lines you can use or draw inspiration from

Openers:
"Wow you look happy!" (credit Rageking)
"Aww so nice hair - is it real?" (pull hair) "HEY.. it moved!" (credit Style & Mystery)
"Aww what a nice fabric/material!" (grab/touch ha piece of her clothes – credit brooklyn)
"Wow.. I can see you work out.. now and then.."
"Wow, you look incredible today - did you take a shower?" (credit Viberateher)
Bump her so almost falls, then "Are you drunk?" (credit dahunter)
"My invisible friend just told me to talk to you!"
"Aww... you are soooo cute! I want to adopt you!" (credit Papa)
"Aww you are soo cute.. but we could never be a couple - we are too much the same.. we would fight and throw things and have incredible make up sex all over the place and fight more then sex fight sex fight.. too much drama and intense feelings!" (credit TylerDurden)
"Shit! A poisonous snake bit me in the testicles - you got to help me suck out the poison - now!"

Comments:
"Bad girl!"
"Naughty girl!"
"You are trouble! I shouldn't be talking to you!"
"There is something mystical about you!"
"You look like you are hiding something!"
"I can't trust you!"
"Aww you look just like.. a little angel/princess!"

Dodge questions:
"Guess!" (credit TylerDurden)
"I'm an unemployed loser - I live with my mom."
"I'm an angel - one more good deed and I'll get my wings!" (credit TylerDurden)
"I'm a traveling underwear inspector!" (credit TylerDurden)
"I'm a freelance gynecologist - how long is it since your last check?" (credit TylerDurden)
"I'm an orgasmologist!" (credit TylerDurden)
"I'm 16 - 16 and unkissed!"
"You are.. 60! Hehe just kidding! Hey I was only kidding! You are.. 16 - sweet 16! 17 18 19! I refuse to believe you are older than 19!"

Misc:
"I lost my teddy (puppy dog face).. would you sleep with me?"
"Aww I love you.. like a sister!"
"Won't you get too aroused if I sit this close?" (credit Nathan Szilard)
"I'm hard - are you wet?"
"My bedroom has a very interesting ceiling!"
"Aww.. you are so cute.. but we could never be a couple.. my mom would never approve!"
"My mom told me to stay away from bad girls!"
"I should have listened to my mom!" (Later in sarge)
"WTF!? I got no friends! Aha.. it must be my mom!" (Cell phone rings)
"I got phone phobia - is it ok if I make my mom call you?" (During #close)
"I dont know need to ask my mom." (credit Nightblue)
"My mom told me to be home before ten." (credit Nightblue)
"I can't help it. My mother raised me too well." (if she says you are too nice) (credit Style)
"I'm soooo lonely (puppy) I got no friends and nobody wants me! Tonight I'll go to bed all alone and cry silently until I fall asleep."
"I'm no good! I cheat, lie and dump girls on valentine's day."
"I'm no good for you - he is cute - he suits you - you look cute together!"
"Yeah I'm such a looser - you should get with this guy - look how cute he is, and he really likes you!"
"My penis is extremely small!"
"I'm a virgin!"
"Girls are so scary!"
"Im shy."
"This is why nobody wants me.. big tummy" (putting belly out and tapping it) "and tiny dick" (indicate 1 inch w/fingers + sad puppy face)
"I collect trash - I'm a trash man! Trash is MY LIFE! I plan a big career in trash!"
"As always, I'm out looking for my future wife. I have NO IDEA why its so hard to find her - I only have 2 tiny requirements! I'm a modest man - I don't ask for much! A perfect body.. and she must be VIRGIN. My dick is so small! I don't want her to have anything to compare me with. It would make me so insecure! I want to be her first and only lover! She must not have a dildo either. I'm afraid the dildo would come between us!"
Get up, stretch, look around and say "I got to go" … "to the toilet" with a wicked grin.
"Are you rich? Aww I need a rich GF who can support me while I start a boy band - The Whatever Boys! But hey - I need groupies too! But you don't look like groupie material - she can be my groupie and you can be my manager! Yeah!" (credit TylerDurden)


Appendix D - Some sex advice
-Don't undress girls. Start sexing instead (rubbing and dry-humping).
-Rub slowly towards pussy but make a turn so you barely miss it.
-When rubbing pussy, just graze it.
-When licking pussy, don't dive in. Home in slowly. Lick inner thighs a lot, barely touching pussy when you change side. Take time licking areas *close* to the pussy before licking IT.
-When time to put it in, don't! Rub clit with head of cock and put only head inside. Go back and forth between rubbing and putting only head inside.
-When fucking, start *very* slow and focus on getting maximum range of motion with every thrust. Accelerate much slower than she wants to.
Article thanks to fastseduction.com

Approaching Women In Nightclubs

• Always Smile
• Look like your there to have fun, not to pick up women.
• Plant Seeds. Simple greetins when you pass a chick, smiling and winking at another, etc.
• NEVER hang out or be seen with the other guys who aren't dancing.
• Be different. Keep every conversation unique, ask open-ended questions, etc.
• If you're new to the club scene and nervous, set your sights kinda low. I don't mean dance with fatties or complete uglies, just don't approach the drop dead gorgeous ones first. Dancing with just ONE woman usually results dancing with every woman in the joint, even if the first one you dance with is a 6 or a 7 on the looks scale.
• The worst thing you can do is say excuse me, pardon me, or anything where you're asking for their permission for you to talk to them. Just start talking. You dont need their permission. If you start like you need their permission, then you're just another tool in the crowd.

Article thanks to theplayersociety.com

How to become an Alpha male

The dictionary definition says:

Alpha male (noun): The dominant member in a group of men. Holds strong influence over group activities. Has priority pick when it comes to sex with women.

But, what does that mean?

To help you understand more about what an alpha male is, I'm going to expand on that definition with some real-life examples.


Alpha males convey good status

When a guy walks into a room of people, he will either:

1. Assume lower status and look around for a leader to follow or get approval from.
2. Assume that he is the leader (or at least one of the leaders) and simply expect others to follow.

Typically, alpha males are like the second type of guy.

Which are you more like at the moment?

Status is explained in more detail in our ground-breaking eBook that every modern man simply must have: The Flow.


Alpha males are usually confident enough to be cocky & funny

A lot of guys are afraid of saying and doing the things that they would really like to.

This especially applies in social situations, where guys will often use 'safe' humor and behavior to stay 'under the radar' and not be noticed by people.

Being cocky & funny is a typical alpha male quality that - if done correctly - will make women extremely attracted to you, and guys look up and respect you more.

I've written up some free tips on cocky & funny here.


Alpha males are confident

Alpha males are usually very confident guys.

How about you?

• How confident are you around women?
• How confident are you around other guys?
• Do you feel confident in specific areas of your life?
• Do you feel that your lack of confidence in some areas, is holding you back from being the alpha male that you know you could be?

At The Modern Man, we've developed a proven system for building and maintaining confidence in all areas of your life.


Alpha males have more masculine qualities

Much of being an alpha male is judged by the masculinty of your behavior, actions, body language and how you live your life.


The following is an example of being an alpha male by taking the lead in a social situation.

Imagine that you’re at a bar with women/friends and it feels like time to change venues.

You can say something like:

“Okay, let’s finish our drinks and go somewhere else. You guys want to go to xyz bar?”

Whereas, a guy who isn't an alpha male will lean more towards a question or statement that suggest someone else takes the lead. For example:

"I'm bored, how about you?" and then he'll hope someone else will take the lead and suggest the next action.

Learn more about how to become an alpha male?

The Player's Top 3 Tips...

-1- Tease her with attention. While you are macking on a particular girl, go away after you've talked for a while and begin talking to someone else, just say to her "I need to disappear for a bit, I'll be back". Try to make it a male friend that you go talk to, or she will think your a player... (let's make that OUR secret, ok?). This will drive her crazy, and if you've made a decent impression on her, she won't be able to think of anything except you... and when you are going to come back. Some of the bolder females out there may even come and butt into your new conversation. However, if she does not, go back after a short period of time and you will notice that she will be ten times more into you than she was before!
The seductive smile...

-2- Upon making eye contact with a woman that you are interested in, always smile. I'm not talking about one of those huge "say cheese" smiles, rather a smirk (maybe a little bit more than a smirk) that says "I'm happy you've looked at me". Once smiling, hold the gaze for 1-2 seconds, then look away. After looking away, try to get her to make eye contact with you again, if this happens go over and talk to her, because her second look was your invitation.
You've got nothing to lose

-3- The guy who gets rejected the most is the guy who will leave with the most numbers! Quit being scared of rejection and just get out there and do it. The trick is to not think about it, if you start thinking "Should I talk to her or not?" then you will talk yourself out of it. Think about it this way, if you talk to her you might have a 50% chance of being rejected and a 50% chance of success, but if you don't talk to her you have a 0% chance of success. If you don't initiate the conversation it will most likely never take place!
Article thaks to becomeaplayer.com

Opening lines

Start picking -up...
MAKE A GOOD OPENER
i found this list that you may find useful as well. Some Openers are shit some are very good.
but you know :everything is down to the Pick up Artist.
Anyway they might give you some ideas. In the end if other PUAs are uing them and posting them on a forum they should have some success.

MAKE A GOOD OPENER

5 Ways to Make a Great First Impression With Women

Any seduction starts before you even speak to a girl, she is making an instant judgment about you as soon as she catches sight of you out of the corner of her eye. Women are much more subtle than men and can make this judgment without you even knowing. Here is how to make a great first impression:

1. Look like you are enjoying yourself.

Most men do not enjoy themselves in bars and clubs, they stand shoulder to shoulder, checking out the women and making the occasional comment to each other. They don’t look like they are enjoying each others’ company and are just out to meet women. This creates a bad first impression. When you see people having fun, you want to join them and you have a better first impression – they appear friendlier, safer, and nicer. Even if you are not having fun, look like you are. Look happy to be in the place and try to have higher energy than those around you. Animated body language, a smiling face and exaggerated reactions are ways to look like you are having fun.

2. Do not stare or obviously check out the girls.

Don’t stand shoulder to shoulder with your friend, stand opposite each other and subtly check out the girls over each others shoulder. This is what girls do! It separates you from all the other guys.

3. Be the fun sociable guy.

If a girl sees you standing around bored and then you approach and put a smile on your face, it seems fake. If you are chatting with the bar staff, talking to men, having fun with friends, and generally being the fun sociable guy, when you talk to her, she will be much more receptive because you have demonstrated that that is how you are with everyone and that your natural character is that of a cool person that likes to meet people.

4. Don’t dress generically.

The rule here is that your clothes should be comment worthy. If a girl cannot say: I like your jeans/shirt/shoes/jacket, then it means it is either ugly or generic. You don’t need to wear outlandish stuff but it should be something that shows you have some personality and aren’t just part of the masses. If you are on a budget, the most important things are the shoes and jacket.

5. Be Well-Groomed

Women notice small details. Clean your nails, iron your shirt, wash your hair, trim your nose hair. Little things can completely put a woman off.

ARTICLE Thanks to ThePlayerSociety.com

Body Language Basics For Seducing Women

Body language is VERY important. According to studies carried out over 50% of your message comes from your body language – what you DON’T say and less then 8% of your communication comes from what you DO say.

What does this mean to you?

It is MORE significant to pay careful attention to HOW you say things, and HOW you position yourself and HOW you act than it is to WHAT you say (at least initially).

You see, you could have the BEST game in the world and be able to really get any woman to like you loads, for example online, but if you used those same winning techniques in the real world and lacked obvious confidence, lacked eye contact etc – You would simply CRASH and BURN.

Honestly, body language is SOOOO important in attracting women. Later in the course we’ll go into how you can use the female’s body language to READ her mind and know what she’s thinking. This article is about YOUR body language.

Ok… So, I’ll cover the basics as the advanced stuff is beyond the scope of this article (if you want more advanced detail concerning body language you can check out my site: eBook ).

Body language basics:

1. Smile

You have to make the female feel at ease and comfortable that you are a friendly and fun guy and you are not a psycho as quick as possible. Especially when talking to her for the first time. You also need to let her know that you are confident and comfortable around women. A big and genuine smile is the best way to do this. It works. In fact, if you ever get an Ice Queen that you can tell is about to give you the “dead eye”, give her a big smile. Practice smiling at random people. You’ll be surprised by how many people smile back and at how many doors open to you. Smiling WORKS. Just don’t make it a cheesy, fake smile ;)

2. Eye contact

As you know there’s nothing worse than staring at a woman’s chest – or even looking. It makes you just like all the other guys who drool over her. If anything you should use all your skill to NOT look at her chest – she’ll wonder why her womanly powers don’t work with you and she’ll seek your attention and subconsciously TRY to get you to look!

When talking to her, try to uphold eye contact. Not too much because it can be intimidating, but if you aim to have eye contact with her around 70% of the time you are talking, this should be comfortable for most women. Don’t stare like a crazy man, just be natural but if you naturally look away or are slightly shy when it comes to eye contact, make a conscious effort to have a little more. Eye contact can make serious connections within people. They say the eyes are a window to the soul and I think there may be some truth to that. There are even speed dating type events being run that involve just staring into each others eyes – and from what I hear, they are pretty successful.

Maintain eye contact. Not too much, about 70% of conversation time. Be natural.

3. Upright posture

Guys can get away with a bit of a hunch, but women really do prefer men with straight, upright postures. Look at all the big film actors like Pitt, Cruise etc. They all have good posture. It says to a woman you are confident, healthy, and strong (at least in mind). It’s just generally more attractive and says lots about who you are. Plus it’s good for your back and will help strengthen your back muscles making it easier to maintain.

Get into the HABIT of having an upright posture.

4. Gesticulate with open palms

You will not hear this tip anywhere else (or if you do, it was almost certainly copied from this course).

I’ve gone into in depth studies of body language and this one is a good one to use in MANY circumstances – I’ve adapted it here after solid testing to picking up women – however, some people suggest that when combined with a few other verbal and non-verbal techniques it can even give you a 50/50 chance of getting out of speeding fines!

Anyway, basically, when you are talking to a woman and trying to make a point (that puts you in a positive light) or defend yourself (for example, a girl suggests you might be a player) you talk and using your hands you have open palms facing upwards. Keep your arms in front of your body with your palms facing the sky and smile as you talk.

It works VERY well on a subconscious level to suggest you are being honest and telling the truth. And if you want a woman to begin to trust you, making her think you are being straight with her, is important.

This open palm gesticulation MUST be combined with a smile to work effectively.

Those are the basics of body language, if you'd like to learn more visit Tiffany Taylor's site by clicking here