# When going on a first date, never go to a club or movie because you want to spend this time talking to her and using the pick up artist skills that you've learned, which can be limited once you go into these places. Take her somewhere fun during the daytime (such as miniature golf, the beach, etc). This will lighten the tension and make both of you more comfortable, and also allow you to talk freely and kino her as much as possible.
# Never attempt to have sex with her unless you know (for sure) that you have the skills to pull it off the FIRST time. If you try and fail, chances are she will be extremely uncomfortable around you the next time you get together, and probably never return your calls or avoid you completely because the situation will have grown into something awkward that she would prefer to stay away from. Once you do have sex with a woman for the first time, NEVER ask the stupid question that people on TV always ask "Was it good?" This is not the way that an alpha male would act, because he will simply assume that she enjoyed it because women always enjoy him.
# Always change the amount of attention that you give her. For instance: Give a woman your undivided attention for an extended period of time one day, and then appear to be too busy to even talk to her the next. This will drive her crazy and you will be on her mind the entire day. She will be wondering if she said or did something wrong, and she will become much more interested in you because she won't be able to think about anything else. Women are emotional creature, and playing upon their emotions is a sure-fire way to keeping them attracted to you for as long as you like. Women want their own lives to seem as crazy and dramatic as a soap opera, so if you can manage to give that to them they'll love you for it.
# Once you are in an established relationship for a relatively long period of time, say this to your girl: "You know, you're probably my best friend". She will most likely burst into tears and will love you twice as much for saying it. *NOTE* Make sure you say this at the right time. For example, saying this while shopping at the mall would be a bad idea, but saying it late at night while your laying in bed would be on point like a fax machine. Also, only do this to your long term girlfriend, saying it to a woman that you've just recently met will be a one-way ticket to the "friends zone".
# Never bring a woman to a really expensive restaurant for any of the first few dates. You may think that you are impressing her, but all you are really doing is adding to the tension of the situation. You will also be raising her expectations and from then on she will expect you to ALWAYS take her to classy places. Unless you can afford to have a high maintenance woman, I suggest you take her on "normal" fun dates rather than on expensive boring ones. Be creative when choosing where to take your date, and it is important to remember that dates that include interactive activities that will require a lot of touching are ideal choices.
# Never... ever... borrow money from a woman. Even if she is a long term girlfriend and you need it badly. Women want a man that can support them in any situation. In a woman's mind "For rich or for poor" actually means "You better get rich, and if your poor I'm gone". If you borrow money she will be thinking "Hows he going to support me when he can't even take care of himself". Never let her know if your in financial trouble. *NOTE* Remember that this rule is only to be applied to long term relationships, and borrowing money from a woman that you are only dating/just met or even having her pay for things is fine and encouraged.
# Never become obsessed with a particular woman you've just met, no matter how hot she is or how much she seems to like you. If you think about her too much, you will begin building up tension in your mind which can affect how you act the next time you see her. That is when you need to be on top of your game, not looking like an idiot with nothing to say or acting needy/clingy. When you meet a woman that you think you may be really getting into, the best thing to do is to go out and meet even more women to keep your mind off of her.
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Monday, May 5, 2008
13 Rules for relationships and dating... PART 2
13 Rules for relationships and dating... PART 1
# When asked "What are you doing?" never reply with "Nothing", always appear to be busy even if you are not. This will make you seem to be much more interesting. You want any woman that you are dating to think of you as a man who has many different aspects of his life and many things to do at all times. If you give off the vibe that you are the type of person that does not have much depth than you will not get very far in your relationships and they will typically end prematurely before you get what you want out of them.
# Never stay on the phone for a long period of time (unless a serious relationship has already been established) or you will appear to be a boring person simply because of the fact that you will appear to have nothing better to do. You should instead get off of the phone with a woman in less than 5 minutes in order to maintain the exciting, mysterious and attractive traits that made the woman interested in you in the first place. No excessive texting either!
# Never act submissive because you want to be the "Nice Guy". In the real world (outside of Hollywood) nice guys don't ever get the girls, so stand up for yourself and don't get used. However, don't become the "Jerk" either, the goal is to be likable while also showing strength by always expressing yourself and your opinions. The key to having a well rounded character is having a good balance of all things.
# Never, and I mean never, say "I love you" first. If you say these 3 words too early you can easily change a great relationship into an uncomfortable one (for the both of you), and possibly destroy it. Your goal at all times, even in a deep relationship, should be to maintain your position of power by keeping the woman chasing after your affection instead of you chasing her. As soon as you give up that power you will begin to lose control of other aspects of the relationship as well.
# Always keep exciting things happening in your existing relationship. Try new things (not only sexually) and never become lazy by just sitting around watching TV every night. If your girl becomes bored with the relationship she will leave or cheat on you. Remember "It's easier to steal someone else's girl than it is to keep your own!" With that in mind, if you've managed to get a great woman that is worth keeping, you must be prepared to put in the effort required to do so!
# Never act serious at the beginning of a new relationship. You may begin to develop strong feelings early on, but you don't want to scare your dream girl away by coming on too strong. Just try to relax and have fun while allowing your relationship to grow at a steady (but slow) pace. In the ideal situation, you will want HER to be to one pressing the issue and trying to evolve the relationship to the next level. This will happen naturally, but you must be patient and give it time. All good things come to those who wait.
Saturday, March 29, 2008
Mini-Rules For Approaching Women
| Mini-Rules For Approaching Women |  |  |  |
2. Avoid picking up angry/sad looking women.
3. Figure out what you're going to say before you say it.
4. If she's giving one-word answers, leave, she is not interested or attracted to you.
5. Just do it, and don't over analyze!
Thursday, March 27, 2008
Flirting tips - or how to pick up and get laid the easy way 1.4
- This one is just dirty
- Tickle tickle tickle
- The seductive smile...
- Do this... but watch out for a cat fight!
aritcle thanks to www.becomeaplayer.com
Flirting tips - or how to pick up and get laid the easy way 1.3
- Let's go back to school...
- Just touch her already, you'll probably like it:)
- And they say WE think about it all day long
- Surprize! But it ain't your birthday!
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Flirting tips - or how to pick up and get laid the easy way 1.2
- On the rebound
- It was an accident, I swear!
- Your the man!
- Just do it... do it... DO IT!
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Thursday, March 20, 2008
The Conversation Tips- pick up women and get laid easy
For better or worse
This ice breaker is so effective that it can work on just about any type of girl, it's pure gold. Try this : The next time you see a really hot babe that you have never met before say this simple phrase... "Will you marry me?" :) I know it sounds crazy, but if you say it with a smile on your face they will almost always think that you are joking... and in turn they will also be very flattered and think that you are cute and have a good sense on humor. Most girls have waited their entire lives to hear a man say those words to them, and by doing so (even though you are joking) you will be giving them a huge ego boost and they are sure to have a great day afterwards... and be thinking about you and what you said the entire time. After using this line make sure to try to continue the conversation and end up getting her number or setting up a date!
Fresh and new
When you are having that initial conversation with a new girl always try to keep the topics interesting by asking her questions that she is not used to getting from guys that hit on her and may have never even been asked before. By all means you should try to avoid asking her the typical questions like "Where do you live?", "Where do you go to school or work?" or "What do you do for fun?"... these will always lead to boring conversations resulting in her thinking you are boring as well. Come up with some good unique questions to ask that will keep her on her toes and interested, a good way to do this is to think of a bunch of them while you are at home and write them down, then try to memorize some of them before you go out. Try this a few times and experiment with different questions, you will find that some work better than others but almost all of them are much more effective than those "normal" questions that I described earlier.
Bragging gets you nowhere
I've noticed that many men like to brag about themselves in an attempt to impress women, they think that if they tell a girl about what they own or what they have done it will increase their chances of picking her up. This kind of strategy is probably the worst way to seduce girls in my opinion, and from my personal experiences in life I've found that the people that do the most talking about themselves are always the most insecure of us all. Men that feel the need to prove themselves to women through words are generally the type of guys that always have a ton of detailed stories to tell about how they bang tons of babes... but you never seem to actually SEE them with one. This is because they never really do get any girls, but because of the fact that they know that you have never seen them with any girls... they feel the need to prove themselves to you as well by making up tall tales. Men that like to brag don't get girls because girls are just not attracted to qualities in men that we TELL them that we have, they are attracted to the qualities in men that we SHOW them we have. We've all heard the old saying "Actions speak louder than words" and this is definitely one of the situations in which it applies. The moral of this tip is obvious : Never brag or try to make yourself seem better by talking about yourself to girls, instead show them that you are an attractive guy by letting what you do and who you are speak for you.
Here, let me give you my card :)
Greatest Ice breaker! Get business cards made that have "Smile if you want to sleep with me" printed on them as large as possible. Then approach a woman in a bar or club and hand her one of the cards without saying a word. Nine out of ten women won't be able to hold back a smile, and this creates the perfect opportunity to start a conversation... because the ice has already been broken.
Watch and learn
The best thing to say to a girl you've never met before is something based on observation... look at her clothes, bags and other stuff you can see to get an idea of something she likes then ask her a question about it, after she gives you an answer proceed to introduce yourself. I always try to "learn" as much as possible about a girl before I approach them... it can really suck if you just go in there blind and try to use a "general" line that you can use on any girl, because every girl is different :) Some people may think that it is "creepy" to do research and learn about a woman before you talk to her, but those people are always the ones who wonder why they fail 90% of the time when they try to talk to women, simply because they try to talk to her about something she is not interested in. By "research" I mean observing her for 10-20 second before approaching... not stalking her :)
Ok, your new name is...
When you call a girl up for the first time give her a "nikename" immediately and use it when she picks up, it doesn't have to be a unique nickname just something that only YOU call her, like you can say "Hey sugar" or "What's goin on beautiful". Always do this with new girls because once they get used to you saying it they will get attached to you faster. If you want to get her talking a lot and make your phone conversation last long you can first start off talking to her by using the above nickname tactic to build rapport, then proceed to something like "I was listening to the radio a little while ago and heard this song that goes like (recite the words of the chorus) and I cant figure out who it was, do you listen to (insert what type of music you think she might like)?" then she will say yes and maybe tell you who the singer is but that don't matter... disregard what she says and proceed to ask her who her favorite artists are and she will go off yapping... then listen to anything else she might say that can branch you off into another topic.
Talking about "the nasty"
Talking about sex with a girl is one of the easy-access "doorways" that you can use to get to the point of actually doing it. Here is a sure-fire way to get her talking about sex : Start talking about something the is not related to YOU and HER having sex (because that could scare her off)... but IS related to sex in general, like you could tell her that someone you know had a girls gone wild dvd and you thought it was funny, then ask her if she would even let someone film her doing that sort of thing... then just take it from there. Once you are talking about sex, if at any time she touches you in any way that means your making progress... because girls NEVER touch guys that they are not sexually attracted to.
Really, how bad could it be?
Don't worry too much about WHAT you say when having a conversation with a girl. HOW you say it, and your body language are much more important. Most guys are scared that a girl will laugh at them if they say the wrong thing... but that is simply a myth promoted by fear. I've never once heard of that happening to anyone besides in the movies. It's just not an issue in real life, so stop stressing over it and realize that almost any girl that you talk to will be happy and excited if you just be real with them... don't try too hard to be Cassanova or Don Juan, just be you.
Loud mouth bastards
Don't ever be that loud mouth bastard that's screaming "Let me see some titties!" at the top of his lungs... or hanging out of the passenger window like "Woooo, girl you got a fatty!". These are the type of guys that girls find funny and entertaining... but funny and entertaining does NOT make it to the bedroom. Don't smack girls on the ass in public, or grope them in any way the could embarass them... because once you make them feel uncomfortable around you in PUBLIC, how are they ever going to be comfortable around you ALONE? Think about it.
Something to calm those nerves
If you seem to be very laid back and "smooth" around women that you are not attracted to... but nervous as hell around hot women, try this strategy to help calm those nerves. First remember that you are a confident, suave player... and you can have any woman that you persue. Next look at the particular female from a critic's perspective... instead of focusing your attention on her good traits (and she may have many), focus your attention on her bad traits (and she may have little, but it does not matter). This works because you are now looking at this girl the same way that you look at the ones that you aren't attracted to, which is exactly what you needed to cure that nervousness!
You've gotta keep your head up
If something doesn't go your way, for example if you get rejected by a girl that you really had your eye on for a while... don't EVER let it get you down. That will only make a bad thing worse, and some guys never recover from something like that. Always remember, you are a player, and players don't ever walk around with their heads down. We take the loss, suck it up and move on to the next girl... because there's more fish in the sea than any one man can catch, and with enough skill and practice your bound to catch a big one. So be patient my players, your time will come if it hasn't already. Remember... we all have our bad days.
Use this line! Use this line!
Here is a good opener you can use: Find a woman that you are interested in and when you approach her say "I bet you have a beautiful smile", then smile and wait for her reaction. 99% of the time she will smile back, and when she does say "I knew it" and proceed to start a conversation with her. If she does not offer a reciprocal smile, simply say "I guess not" and walk away.
You've got nothing to lose
The guy who gets rejected the most is the guy who will leave with the most numbers! Quit being scared or rejection and just get out there and do it. The trick is to not think about it, if you start thinking "Should I talk to her or not?" then you will talk yourself out of it. Think about it this way, if you talk to her you might have a 50% chance of being rejected and a 50% chance of success, but if you don't talk to her you have a 0% chance of success. If you don't initiate the conversation it will most likely never take place!
Two birds with one stone
Ever get a woman's number, and when she gave it to you it seemed like she was really into you and that everything would go according to plan, but when you call her she makes up an excuse why she does not want to come out on a date? This is because of the fact that out of sight is out of mind. For instance, when a good salesman is trying to sell you something, he will do almost anything to make the sale before you leave, because if you walk out the door he knows that he will never see you again. This works the same way, you must always get her number AND set up a date when you first meet her, in other words... you must "close the sale". So from now on, replace the phrase "Can I get your number?" with "I'd like to take you out sometime, how about Saturday night?" and when she says ok, say "Cool, is there a number I can reach you at?". Trust me, it works like a rubber glock... anywhere, anytime, and every time :)
Those girls just love anticipation
When you are going to ask a girl out, try this unique trick that will make it much easier for you to do, and the girl much more interested in you: Tell her you are going to ask her out before you actually do. For instance, say something like "I'm going to ask you out, but not right now... I'm not in the mood". The anticipation will drive her nuts, because she has no idea when you are going to ask her out. You will be on her mind 24/7 until you eventually do ask her out, which you should do when she least expects it. You will get a yes almost every time with this technique!
Did anyone say open ended?
The opening line that you say to a woman when you first make your approach is extremely important, and by now you should know that pick up lines are no good. Try these opening lines that are very effective: "Why are you in such a good mood?" or "Why do you look so down?". Use the proper one based on your observations, and you will be very happy with the results. These lines will usually get her talking, because they demand more than a simple yes or no.
You can read this... but can you read those?
Ever have problems talking to girls in nightclubs just because of the simple fact that you can't hear them very well? If so, I've got a simple method to get around this, and that is to improve your lip reading skills. It sounds harder than it actually is, all you need to do is watch some tv! Next time you are watching some tv shows (familiar shows like Friends or Sienfeld seem to work well) put your tv on mute and try to fingure out what they are talking about. If you do this one time each week for 1-2 hours you will be able to read lips extremely well, this skill requires minimal practice to learn!
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Thursday, March 6, 2008
MUST Rules for becoming more attractive...
# Variety is the key, switch up your hair style, cologne, and outfits on a regular basis. Women love men that they can not predict. You don't want to be viewed as being boring, do you? It would also be a good idea to have something unique about your appearance that sets you apart from the crowd, this will help to get you noticed more often by women and even approached by them. Having a unique appearance is one of the main ingredients to being viewed as someone who is interesting and a person that people will want to know more about.
# Always wear nice shoes. As men we may not notice anyone else's shoes, or care what ours look like most of the time. However, I can assure you that women do notice and this can be just the edge that you need. Woman typically like to classify men by the type and status of the shoes that we are wearing. For example, if a man is wearing crappy, worn down boots then most women will assume that he is a worker that makes very little money... and also doesn't care much about his appearance. However, if you slapped a brand new pair of sneakers on that same guy, women will think that he has a decent job and takes pride in what he looks like. This can make all of the difference in the world.
# Always wear cologne, and I'm not talking about cheap cologne like Preferred Stock. This rule is particularly important if you are frequenting bars and clubs looking for women, because you will be around many other people and a lot of smoke. The last thing you want is to show up at an after party smelling like a smoke bomb and other undesirable things. Every player should take the time to investigate different types of high end cologne and choose one (or many) that he feels is right for him.
# Women are attracted to courageous men, so never appear to be afraid of anything. If you are a wuss and you can't help it, I suggest avoiding situations that may produce confrontations, etc. If you are going to take on the role of the woman-getting alpha male, you must be fully prepared to defend that status even if it means getting into conflicts with other men or doing various things that you are uncomfortable with.
# Always iron your clothes before you go out. Better than that, iron your clothes before you go anywhere, you never know who you'll run into. Having wrinkles in your clothes can greatly affect how attractive women find you. Why do you think women find gay men so attractive? They pay close attention to their appearance and always make sure that they are looking top notch in any situation, so there is no reason why you should not do the same. Having a nice, clean appearance does NOT make you a metro sexual, it simply shows that you care about what you look like.
# While at a bar or nightclub, observe what type of clothes other men that are successful with the ladies are wearing, this will give you a general idea of what to wear. I can't tell you exactly what to wear because fashions tend to vary depending on where you live, but one simple rule to remember is: Dress to impress, always try to over-dress for the occasion. Women almost always assume that the best dressed men in the building are the most successful/highest paid. I'm not telling you to dress in a way that will only attract gold digger, but rather to dress in a way that will make others say "Wow, he looks like someone important."
# Develop a slightly arrogant, upright walk. Your walk greatly reflects how confident you are, and you should know by now that women love confidence. Plus always remember to keep your chest out and shoulders back, this will make you appear to be wider and stronger than you actually are. You want to give the impression that you are a man who is accustomed to getting women all of the time, and in order to do so your body language must show it.
# Always have breath mints or gum on you at all times. If you are talking to a woman and she smells bad breath, this will pretty much ruin your chances of EVER getting a kiss from her. Even us men would be reluctant to kiss someone with dragon breath. Would you kiss a super model if her breath smelled like sour milk?
Article THANKS to becomeaplayer.com
Wednesday, February 27, 2008
Seducing girls - "almost" a complete guide But very good article
Improve appearance on day to day basis. Get organized - written goals/plans. Focus on these 3 areas:
-Gym & nutrition. Girls seem to value strong/raw physique much more than genetic good looks. This alone will transform seduction from a difficult mountain climb to a walk in the park. Girls will be much more cooperative early on. It is an absolute must.
-Dress with distinct style. Take it to the extreme in clubs/disco. Groom adequately. If odor/rash problem, try 5%vinegar instead of soap.
-Improve vibe/body language habits (see app. A)
Go to coffee shop/mall/pub/bar/club at least twice a week. On your way there, first focus on total relaxing - shut down all other thoughts (especially thoughts about girls). Then consider the incredible coincidence that put you into existence. Think about how lucky you are and how great life is compared to not existing. Really feel the gratitude for being alive, and put a big smile on your face. Continue focusing on this and other things you appreciate (see app. B).
When you arrive, all happy and relaxed, your first mission is to find something inside this environment that you appreciate. Then, turn immediately to the nearest girl and tell her. Say something like "I love this song!" or "Wow.. this couch is so soft.. and I love this texture!" (rub the material slowly). If you see a nice girl, tell her immediately (no delay) . Say something like "You look happy!" or "Aww.. you are so cute!" or "Nice hair! Is it real?" or "That shirt looks good on you!"...
Do not try to observe her reaction. Just continue smiling and commenting on things. Sit/stand with your side towards her. Keep everything light and relaxed. No need to talk non stop. Mix in some teasing and humor (see app. C for inspiration).
When she starts asking about you, say "Guess". Then dodge with joke answers (see list). Then break yourself off in middle of telling. Then try _obviously_ to change the subject. Girls find this little game of secrecy very exciting.
When she starts smiling a lot, tell her she smells good. Stroke her lightly. Talk less. Sit closer.
The end.
Appendix A - Vibe/BL
Attractive body language (BL) habits:
-Posture (straight as if pulled up by the back of head)
-Relaxed (eye lids, face, neck&shoulders, breathing etc)
-Spread out (occupying much space)
-Grace (move deliberately and slightly slowed - a bit like tai chi)
-Distant (as if surroundings are not very important - see BL note in app. B)
The 3 main seductive vibes:
Alpha Male - extra slow, arching neck, extra spread out, expand torso as if air balloon inside being filled. Effective for making girls notice you.
Exercise for learning alpha BL: Close your eyes and conjure mental picture of you being leader and protector of your tribe. Notice the BL details and how powerful and dominant you look. In your mind, climb into the picture and walk over to the alpha you. Step inside and become the alpha you with your BL. Notice how it feels. Find out what color do you associate with this feeling, and where in your body this feeling comes from. See how the feeling/color flows out from this place and fill every part of your body from the top of your head to the tip of your toes. Make the feeling intense and the color bright all over your body. Imagine a volume button in the spot where the feeling comes from. Paint it in the same color and notice what it looks like. Imagine it slowly turning the feeling up to double intensity. Then gradually all the way up to 10 times as intense. From now on, turning this dial will boost your alpha vibe no matter what, so no need to think about the details.
Post Coital - extra emphasis on being relaxed and comfy. Extremely laid back and 'chill'. Slightly narrow eyes and some sleepy stretching. Totally unworried and distant, not caring about surroundings. Effective for making girls curious about you. Practice: Imagine having had crazy sex all night and now totally exhausted. Step into this image like described above.
Horny - unlike other two, strongly aware of girl (facing and looking at her). Very relaxed face with low eye lids and open mouth. Heavy breathing, lick/bite lips, let eyes wander down to girl's body. Effective for turning girls on. Practice: think of something that makes you horny and notice how it affects your BL. Intensify feeling. Intensify BL. (credit GunWitch)
Note on learning all this:
Only way to improve BL-habit is daily practice. Create a daily ritual where you first practice BL and then go into each of the 3 seductive attitudes. Do it together with something you already do every day (brushing teeth, walking to office etc..), so you never forget to practice. Make a small list of the things you want to practice, and keep it in bathroom. Also, whenever you catch yourself having bad BL (hunched, tense, hurried etc..), correct it at once.
Appendix B - Appreciate
Appreciation is to hold something in your mind with gratitude. When doing this, bad feelings are shut down and good feelings are strengthened. When a person is in this mental mode, its easy for others to see - its as if the bliss/happiness is bleeding out from every pore. Those feelings are contagious, so others will start to feel good too, even if they don't know why the person is happy. This creates a feeling of friendship and GOOD INTENTIONS. This is why appreciation is the ideal mental frame to be in when meeting new people (and socializing in general).
When focusing on things you dont have, you open your mind to the feeling of need (wanting something). This is the opposite of appreciation and leads to feelings like frustration, insecurity, sadness, discontent and so on. This is also easy for others to see, and it makes others insecure and uneasy about you. They can see you want something. They DOUBT your good intentions. This is why need is the WORST POSSIBLE frame for meeting people.
Needy people suffer from habits of seeking validation from others. Two things must be done to end this habit. The first is to focus your mind on appreciation - stop dwelling on all the stuff you want, and learn to appreciate areas that already satisfy you. Practice this every day. I recommend you do this during a daily routine like teeth brushing. Go through all the things that are going well and take moments to really feel the gratitude for each one.
Secondly, focus on appreciation when you socialize. Look actively for positive qualities in others, and let them know you noticed. Also look for positive things about surroundings or situation and talk warmly about them. Also talk about good experiences you have had lately, emphasizing how good it made you feel. Discipline yourself to steer all conversations down this path. In no time, this will transform you from a needy guy, to the type of guy everyone love to hang with.
A note on BL: Neediness (validation seeking) materializes itself as a large 'awareness radius' (how far away from yourself, you are aware of whats going on). To avoid sending out this bad vibe, try this little mind trick: Imagine a sphere around you. Everything outside the sphere doesn't exist. Then make the sphere as small as possible.
Appendix C - lines you can use or draw inspiration from
Openers:
"Wow you look happy!" (credit Rageking)
"Aww so nice hair - is it real?" (pull hair) "HEY.. it moved!" (credit Style & Mystery)
"Aww what a nice fabric/material!" (grab/touch ha piece of her clothes – credit brooklyn)
"Wow.. I can see you work out.. now and then.."
"Wow, you look incredible today - did you take a shower?" (credit Viberateher)
Bump her so almost falls, then "Are you drunk?" (credit dahunter)
"My invisible friend just told me to talk to you!"
"Aww... you are soooo cute! I want to adopt you!" (credit Papa)
"Aww you are soo cute.. but we could never be a couple - we are too much the same.. we would fight and throw things and have incredible make up sex all over the place and fight more then sex fight sex fight.. too much drama and intense feelings!" (credit TylerDurden)
"Shit! A poisonous snake bit me in the testicles - you got to help me suck out the poison - now!"
Comments:
"Bad girl!"
"Naughty girl!"
"You are trouble! I shouldn't be talking to you!"
"There is something mystical about you!"
"You look like you are hiding something!"
"I can't trust you!"
"Aww you look just like.. a little angel/princess!"
Dodge questions:
"Guess!" (credit TylerDurden)
"I'm an unemployed loser - I live with my mom."
"I'm an angel - one more good deed and I'll get my wings!" (credit TylerDurden)
"I'm a traveling underwear inspector!" (credit TylerDurden)
"I'm a freelance gynecologist - how long is it since your last check?" (credit TylerDurden)
"I'm an orgasmologist!" (credit TylerDurden)
"I'm 16 - 16 and unkissed!"
"You are.. 60! Hehe just kidding! Hey I was only kidding! You are.. 16 - sweet 16! 17 18 19! I refuse to believe you are older than 19!"
Misc:
"I lost my teddy (puppy dog face).. would you sleep with me?"
"Aww I love you.. like a sister!"
"Won't you get too aroused if I sit this close?" (credit Nathan Szilard)
"I'm hard - are you wet?"
"My bedroom has a very interesting ceiling!"
"Aww.. you are so cute.. but we could never be a couple.. my mom would never approve!"
"My mom told me to stay away from bad girls!"
"I should have listened to my mom!" (Later in sarge)
"WTF!? I got no friends! Aha.. it must be my mom!" (Cell phone rings)
"I got phone phobia - is it ok if I make my mom call you?" (During #close)
"I dont know need to ask my mom." (credit Nightblue)
"My mom told me to be home before ten." (credit Nightblue)
"I can't help it. My mother raised me too well." (if she says you are too nice) (credit Style)
"I'm soooo lonely (puppy) I got no friends and nobody wants me! Tonight I'll go to bed all alone and cry silently until I fall asleep."
"I'm no good! I cheat, lie and dump girls on valentine's day."
"I'm no good for you - he is cute - he suits you - you look cute together!"
"Yeah I'm such a looser - you should get with this guy - look how cute he is, and he really likes you!"
"My penis is extremely small!"
"I'm a virgin!"
"Girls are so scary!"
"Im shy."
"This is why nobody wants me.. big tummy" (putting belly out and tapping it) "and tiny dick" (indicate 1 inch w/fingers + sad puppy face)
"I collect trash - I'm a trash man! Trash is MY LIFE! I plan a big career in trash!"
"As always, I'm out looking for my future wife. I have NO IDEA why its so hard to find her - I only have 2 tiny requirements! I'm a modest man - I don't ask for much! A perfect body.. and she must be VIRGIN. My dick is so small! I don't want her to have anything to compare me with. It would make me so insecure! I want to be her first and only lover! She must not have a dildo either. I'm afraid the dildo would come between us!"
Get up, stretch, look around and say "I got to go" … "to the toilet" with a wicked grin.
"Are you rich? Aww I need a rich GF who can support me while I start a boy band - The Whatever Boys! But hey - I need groupies too! But you don't look like groupie material - she can be my groupie and you can be my manager! Yeah!" (credit TylerDurden)
Appendix D - Some sex advice
-Don't undress girls. Start sexing instead (rubbing and dry-humping).
-Rub slowly towards pussy but make a turn so you barely miss it.
-When rubbing pussy, just graze it.
-When licking pussy, don't dive in. Home in slowly. Lick inner thighs a lot, barely touching pussy when you change side. Take time licking areas *close* to the pussy before licking IT.
-When time to put it in, don't! Rub clit with head of cock and put only head inside. Go back and forth between rubbing and putting only head inside.
-When fucking, start *very* slow and focus on getting maximum range of motion with every thrust. Accelerate much slower than she wants to.
Article thanks to fastseduction.com
Tuesday, February 26, 2008
A list of 19 tips about Approaching (starting PUA)
"Mystery" put together a handy list of crucially important things to do when you approach a beautiful woman.
1. Have a canned opener ready -- This is NOT a night at the improv. Going "situational" (e.g., "it sure is crowded here" or "that's a nice purse") will rarely work. Remember
last time when we talked about how the average girl has been hit on 5,000 times before you came along? Well, most of those 5,000 guys have tried something boring and situational. Use a canned opener -- something that has been repeatedly tested with women and is proven to work.
2. 3-2-1-GO -- The three-second rule was created for a reason. When you see a girl you like, GO. Open her group within three seconds. The failure to do this will "stale you
out". Women like confidence. They don't like to be stalked. They like spontaneity. Wandering around circling her, looking at her, trying to figure out what to do next will turn her off and creep her out. Get into the habit of seeing attractive women and GO in. You've already got your opener ready, right?
3. Approach at an angle -- Do not walk straight up to the group. Approach at angle, tilt your head over your shoulders, and say your piece. Done correctly (and you almost need to see it to do it properly), you raise your value significantly by demonstrating that you do not need their attention or approval.
4. Smile on the approach -- Don't grin like a moron through the entire interaction, but smile as you walk to the set, and in the first few seconds of the opener. Smile with your eyes, not just your mouth.
5. Be loud enough -- Everyone in the group should hear your opener. Your opener should be loud enough that it cuts across whatever conversations they are already having. Don't shout, but make it socially awkward for them not to pay attention to your opener.
6. Don't lean in -- This is connected to being loud enough. You should project your voice enough that they can hear you from a normal standing position (or leaning slightly back).
7. Engage the group -- Do NOT go into a group and talk to the woman you want to meet (the target). Engage the whole group. Pay LESS attention to the target.
8. Neg the target -- You should know what negs are by now. The hotter the girl, the quicker you have to neg. I've seen Mystery open with a neg, as well as negging the target within the first 10 seconds of his opener.
There. Do those things, and you should be able to get through A1 (the opener). As soon as you spot the opportunity, shift gears into A2 (interest/attraction).
I also wanted to talk about some basic fashion and style tips.
1. Untuck that shirt -- Don't go out to a social gathering with a collared, button-down shirt that is tucked in. It's not in style. Trust us.
2. Be taller -- There are plenty of brands of very fashionable shoes and boots that give you extra height. I'm 5'10 normally and 6'1 in the kick-ass pair of black buckled dress shoes that have a couple of inches underneath. Just by itself this has made me more attractive to a large number of women and has given me a chance with some women who wouldn't have talked to me before.
3. Burn that t-shirt -- Don't wear a white t-shirt under your dress shirt. That's so late 80s. It conveys a lack of sexuality. Undo the top two buttons of your shirt (no more!) and show a tiny bit of your chest. If this exposes mounds of chest hair, then get that taken care of too. While you're at it, get rid of short-sleeved button-down shirts too.
4. Get some ornamental stuff -- Earrings, funky shoes, rings, hats, scarves, neck-chains, wrist bands, whatever. Get something. What is purely ornamental (e.g., a double breasted suit, cuff links, a peacock's tail) is sexy. What is purely functional generally is not. See what Mystery, Lovedrop, Sinn, DJ, and the Prophet look like in the field and you'll get it.
5. Make your clothes fit -- Why spend $80 on a shirt off the rack that doesn't fit if you won't spend $5-$10 to have it altered? If it doesn't fit you perfectly, spend a couple of bucks, take it to a dry cleaner/alterations place, and get them to make it fit.
6. Remove excess hair -- If you have any hint of your eyebrows touching, wax or shave them so there is separation. Nose and ear hairs are sexy to NO ONE. Make sure your sideburns, if you have them, have a neat line and definition and are at the same length on each side. Most women prefer shaved chests too, though this depends somewhat on individual preferences.
7. Squelch acne -- First, if you're still getting acne, see a dermatologist. Second, for your acne scars, consider laser skin care (expensive) or makeup (cheap). Get a female friend to help you buy a cover up stick and some powder. You can make your zits vanish for the night.
8. Whiten your teeth -- It's cheap and easy. Go through your dentist, not those white strips. No excuses.
9. Work out -- No excuses. Just do it.
10. Glasses -- Glasses are sexy on some men. They are not on most men. Try contacts or surgery. Savoy tells me that of the bootcamp students he's seen, in 8 months he's told dozens of guys to take off their glasses. Only two guys looked as good or better with their glasses back on.
11. Relax -- Have you done all of this? Great. Now you're out meeting women, don't worry about this anymore. You've done the best you can with what you have. Girls WILL notice. A 6 who takes care of himself (and looks like an 8 because of it) is infinitely more attractive to a woman than an 8 who is a slob (and stays an 8).
Friday, February 22, 2008
Approaching Women In Nightclubs
- Always Smile
- Look like your there to have fun, not to pick up women.
- Plant Seeds. Simple greetins when you pass a chick, smiling and winking at another, etc.
- NEVER hang out or be seen with the other guys who aren't dancing.
- Be different. Keep every conversation unique, ask open-ended questions, etc.
- If you're new to the club scene and nervous, set your sights kinda low. I don't mean dance with fatties or complete uglies, just don't approach the drop dead gorgeous ones first. Dancing with just ONE woman usually results dancing with every woman in the joint, even if the first one you dance with is a 6 or a 7 on the looks scale.
- The worst thing you can do is say excuse me, pardon me, or anything where you're asking for their permission for you to talk to them. Just start talking. You dont need their permission. If you start like you need their permission, then you're just another tool in the crowd.
Friday, February 15, 2008
Get women phone number…
Get women phone number…
Ahh, the moment of truth. Inevitably it will come time to part ways and when it does give her the 'ol "Can I get your phone number?" (or some variation thereof). DO IT!!! Don't chicken out.
To improve your chances of success don't wait for an awkward lull in the conversation. Make her laugh and then pop the question. Also, give her a reason to give you her number. For example, instead of saying, "Can I get your number?" say, "Can I get your number so that we can do something this weekend?" or, "I'd like to get in touch with you again, can I get your number?" You get the idea. This will improve your chances IF you managed to impress her.
In the end, approaching women is a numbers game. A certain percentage of women will already be taken, another percentage doesn't give out their phone number (no matter who asks), a certain percentage isn't interested, but there is, of course, a certain percentage that will give you their number. It may not be a high percentage but there IS a percentage.
Don't be frustrated because you approached 5 girls and none of them gave you their number. I have coached hundreds of men on how to be successful with women. On average, most guys will get rejected 4 out of 5 times. But, that means that if you approach 25 women a week you will get 5 numbers. Don't get frustrated.
Now, you are thinking "This is all fine and dandy but how do I start a conversation? That's the hard part." Well, there is no magic bullet I'm afraid. With practice it will become easier but I won't leave you with nothing.
Here's an opening line that works very well for me
"Why do you look so sad ?" or "Why do you look so happy ?" (depends on how she looks of course). Say it with confidence, with a big smile on your face and it will work well. Give it a try … you'll be pleasantly surprised at how well it works.
This works well for two reasons
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It is an open ended question. It demands more than a yes or no answer so it will get her talking and leave you with the opportunity to ask more questions.
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It will set her at ease. It's not a traditional, cheesy pick up line.
Sunday, February 3, 2008
How to tell if a girl is Attracted to you
We are surrounded by women all the time and some of these women are attracted to us. So many men question whether a woman is attracted to them or not. Women are much more delicate than men in the way they show their attraction. But once you know the signs, you’ll always be able to tell if a woman is attracted to you. One of these should be sufficient to act on, more than one and it is an explicit “go” signal! Here are the ways women show that they like you:
- If She Wants to Speak to You:
- She points her feet in the direction of you when standing up.
- She smiles, or looks away embarrassed when you hold eye contact.
- She jerks her leg in your direction if sitting down with legs crossed.
- She adjusts her posture – sits up straighter and tucks in belly.
- She faces you with her hips/legs while sitting down.
- She opens up her body language to you while standing.
- She brushes up against you pointlessly when she passes.
- She looks at you two times before approach.
- She twirls her hair when she notices you.
If you get one of these signals, go in and start a conversation with her. Your next objective is to take the interaction to a point where she wants to have a conversation with you. It might happen instantly or it might not. If you have approached without any of the above invitations, you should look for some of the below to know that she is attracted to you.
- If She is Interested in making the interaction longer:
- She asks you questions
- She asks your name.
- She gives extended answers to your questions.
So now you know whether she likes you to the point of wanting to talk to you, but how do you know if she wants to get physical with you?
- If She is Sexually Attracted to You:
- She strokes her neck when in conversation with you.
- She peeks at your mouth.
- She tilts head to the side when speaking to you.
- Her pupils dilate.
- She giggles too much at your jokes, even when they aren’t funny.
- She is happy listening to you even when you are talking rubbish.
- She holds eye contact with you and doesn’t glance around the room or at her friends. Note – if she is anxious and it is just not her character to hold strong eye contact, she could still be interested.
- She is relaxed with you touching her and invading her space.
- She shows enthusiasm to leave her friends and stay with you.
- She laughs and hits you on the shoulder when you tease her.
- She looks at you in a dreaming kind of way.
- She asks if you are single.
- She says your name in conversation.
- She leans in to you.
Now that you know all the ways that a girl can show that she is attracted to you, you will be able to make the move and will stop having missed chances. It will increase your success rate by a huge amount.
Article Thanks to theplayersociety.com
Successful first dates tips
- Arrive on time
Not too early, not too late, right on time. This indicates to her that you have your stuff together. - Be polite
Be polite to her and everyone else you encounter (waiters, movie attendants, etc.). No one likes or appreciates a jerk. - Relax
If you sense that you are getting nervous take a few deep breaths and remind yourself that you are the man and that you are deciding whether or not this girl is worthy of your time. It is important that you concentrate on just having fun. This girl likes you or she wouldn't be with you right now. - Tip well
A sign of class. Never, ever skimp on a tip. Tip at the very least 15%. - Be decisive
Have a plan. You absolutely MUST avoid, at all costs, ever saying, "I don't know what do you want to do?" Don't second-guess yourself, make excuses or apologize every time you make a small mistake. - Shut-up
Try to keep the conversation focused on her. She should do about 70% of all the talking. It is a well known fact that most people enjoy talking about themselves and dislike hearing someone else talk about themselves too much. You may be tempted, if the conversation starts to run out, to tell her all about your family, your pet dog, etc. but you MUST restrain yourself. - End on a good note
Say something funny and then get out of there. Don't wait for the date to become boring. If you sense that things are winding down it is better to end while everyone is in a good mood than to risk waiting until she is tired, bored and annoyed. - Don't be afraid to disagree
Don't be afraid to say the word "no" or "I disagree" on a date. Women like to know that you have a backbone and will NOT like you more if you are a "yes man" (a.k.a. "doormat") - Don't act needy
Very few things will drive a woman away faster. You don't have to be right by her side the whole night and don't be afraid of talking to other people. Also, don't act possessive if she decides to wander away and talk to someone else. - Be mindful of non-verbal communication
Don't get tense because this is a big indicator of a lack of confidence. Stand up straight, articulate, look her (and everyone else) in the eye. Women don't like to think that their man is easily scared and intimidated. Source:
http://www.pick-up-woman.com/successful-first-date-tips.shtml
