How to become an Alpha male

The dictionary definition says:

Alpha male (noun): The dominant member in a group of men. Holds strong influence over group activities. Has priority pick when it comes to sex with women.

But, what does that mean?

To help you understand more about what an alpha male is, I'm going to expand on that definition with some real-life examples.


Alpha males convey good status

When a guy walks into a room of people, he will either:

1. Assume lower status and look around for a leader to follow or get approval from.
2. Assume that he is the leader (or at least one of the leaders) and simply expect others to follow.

Typically, alpha males are like the second type of guy.

Which are you more like at the moment?

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Alpha males are usually confident enough to be cocky & funny

A lot of guys are afraid of saying and doing the things that they would really like to.

This especially applies in social situations, where guys will often use 'safe' humor and behavior to stay 'under the radar' and not be noticed by people.

Being cocky & funny is a typical alpha male quality that - if done correctly - will make women extremely attracted to you, and guys look up and respect you more.

I've written up some free tips on cocky & funny here.


Alpha males are confident

Alpha males are usually very confident guys.

How about you?

• How confident are you around women?
• How confident are you around other guys?
• Do you feel confident in specific areas of your life?
• Do you feel that your lack of confidence in some areas, is holding you back from being the alpha male that you know you could be?

At The Modern Man, we've developed a proven system for building and maintaining confidence in all areas of your life.


Alpha males have more masculine qualities

Much of being an alpha male is judged by the masculinty of your behavior, actions, body language and how you live your life.


The following is an example of being an alpha male by taking the lead in a social situation.

Imagine that you’re at a bar with women/friends and it feels like time to change venues.

You can say something like:

“Okay, let’s finish our drinks and go somewhere else. You guys want to go to xyz bar?”

Whereas, a guy who isn't an alpha male will lean more towards a question or statement that suggest someone else takes the lead. For example:

"I'm bored, how about you?" and then he'll hope someone else will take the lead and suggest the next action.

Learn more about how to become an alpha male?

The Player's Top 3 Tips...

-1- Tease her with attention. While you are macking on a particular girl, go away after you've talked for a while and begin talking to someone else, just say to her "I need to disappear for a bit, I'll be back". Try to make it a male friend that you go talk to, or she will think your a player... (let's make that OUR secret, ok?). This will drive her crazy, and if you've made a decent impression on her, she won't be able to think of anything except you... and when you are going to come back. Some of the bolder females out there may even come and butt into your new conversation. However, if she does not, go back after a short period of time and you will notice that she will be ten times more into you than she was before!
The seductive smile...

-2- Upon making eye contact with a woman that you are interested in, always smile. I'm not talking about one of those huge "say cheese" smiles, rather a smirk (maybe a little bit more than a smirk) that says "I'm happy you've looked at me". Once smiling, hold the gaze for 1-2 seconds, then look away. After looking away, try to get her to make eye contact with you again, if this happens go over and talk to her, because her second look was your invitation.
You've got nothing to lose

-3- The guy who gets rejected the most is the guy who will leave with the most numbers! Quit being scared of rejection and just get out there and do it. The trick is to not think about it, if you start thinking "Should I talk to her or not?" then you will talk yourself out of it. Think about it this way, if you talk to her you might have a 50% chance of being rejected and a 50% chance of success, but if you don't talk to her you have a 0% chance of success. If you don't initiate the conversation it will most likely never take place!
Article thaks to becomeaplayer.com

How to tell if a girl is Attracted to you

We are surrounded by women all the time and some of these women are attracted to us. So many men question whether a woman is attracted to them or not. Women are much more delicate than men in the way they show their attraction. But once you know the signs, you’ll always be able to tell if a woman is attracted to you. One of these should be sufficient to act on, more than one and it is an explicit “go” signal! Here are the ways women show that they like you:

1. If She Wants to Speak to You:

• She points her feet in the direction of you when standing up.
• She smiles, or looks away embarrassed when you hold eye contact.
• She jerks her leg in your direction if sitting down with legs crossed.
• She adjusts her posture – sits up straighter and tucks in belly.
• She faces you with her hips/legs while sitting down.
• She opens up her body language to you while standing.
• She brushes up against you pointlessly when she passes.
• She looks at you two times before approach.
• She twirls her hair when she notices you.

If you get one of these signals, go in and start a conversation with her. Your next objective is to take the interaction to a point where she wants to have a conversation with you. It might happen instantly or it might not. If you have approached without any of the above invitations, you should look for some of the below to know that she is attracted to you.

1. If She is Interested in making the interaction longer:

• She asks you questions
• She asks your name.
• She gives extended answers to your questions.

So now you know whether she likes you to the point of wanting to talk to you, but how do you know if she wants to get physical with you?

1. If She is Sexually Attracted to You:

• She strokes her neck when in conversation with you.
• She peeks at your mouth.
• She tilts head to the side when speaking to you.
• Her pupils dilate.
• She giggles too much at your jokes, even when they aren’t funny.
• She is happy listening to you even when you are talking rubbish.
• She holds eye contact with you and doesn’t glance around the room or at her friends. Note – if she is anxious and it is just not her character to hold strong eye contact, she could still be interested.
• She is relaxed with you touching her and invading her space.
• She shows enthusiasm to leave her friends and stay with you.
• She laughs and hits you on the shoulder when you tease her.
• She looks at you in a dreaming kind of way.
• She asks if you are single.
• She says your name in conversation.
• She leans in to you.

Now that you know all the ways that a girl can show that she is attracted to you, you will be able to make the move and will stop having missed chances. It will increase your success rate by a huge amount.

Article Thanks to theplayersociety.com

Successful first dates tips

1. Arrive on time
   Not too early, not too late, right on time. This indicates to her that you have your stuff together.
   
2. Be polite
   Be polite to her and everyone else you encounter (waiters, movie attendants, etc.). No one likes or appreciates a jerk.
   
3. Relax
   If you sense that you are getting nervous take a few deep breaths and remind yourself that you are the man and that you are deciding whether or not this girl is worthy of your time. It is important that you concentrate on just having fun. This girl likes you or she wouldn't be with you right now.
   
4. Tip well
   A sign of class. Never, ever skimp on a tip. Tip at the very least 15%.
   
5. Be decisive
   Have a plan. You absolutely MUST avoid, at all costs, ever saying, "I don't know what do you want to do?" Don't second-guess yourself, make excuses or apologize every time you make a small mistake.
   
6. Shut-up
   Try to keep the conversation focused on her. She should do about 70% of all the talking. It is a well known fact that most people enjoy talking about themselves and dislike hearing someone else talk about themselves too much. You may be tempted, if the conversation starts to run out, to tell her all about your family, your pet dog, etc. but you MUST restrain yourself.
   
7. End on a good note
   Say something funny and then get out of there. Don't wait for the date to become boring. If you sense that things are winding down it is better to end while everyone is in a good mood than to risk waiting until she is tired, bored and annoyed.
   
8. Don't be afraid to disagree
   Don't be afraid to say the word "no" or "I disagree" on a date. Women like to know that you have a backbone and will NOT like you more if you are a "yes man" (a.k.a. "doormat")
   
9. Don't act needy
   Very few things will drive a woman away faster. You don't have to be right by her side the whole night and don't be afraid of talking to other people. Also, don't act possessive if she decides to wander away and talk to someone else.
   
10. Be mindful of non-verbal communication
    Don't get tense because this is a big indicator of a lack of confidence. Stand up straight, articulate, look her (and everyone else) in the eye. Women don't like to think that their man is easily scared and intimidated.
Source:
http://www.pick-up-woman.com/successful-first-date-tips.shtml