# Variety is the key, switch up your hair style, cologne, and outfits on a regular basis. Women love men that they can not predict. You don't want to be viewed as being boring, do you? It would also be a good idea to have something unique about your appearance that sets you apart from the crowd, this will help to get you noticed more often by women and even approached by them. Having a unique appearance is one of the main ingredients to being viewed as someone who is interesting and a person that people will want to know more about.
# Always wear nice shoes. As men we may not notice anyone else's shoes, or care what ours look like most of the time. However, I can assure you that women do notice and this can be just the edge that you need. Woman typically like to classify men by the type and status of the shoes that we are wearing. For example, if a man is wearing crappy, worn down boots then most women will assume that he is a worker that makes very little money... and also doesn't care much about his appearance. However, if you slapped a brand new pair of sneakers on that same guy, women will think that he has a decent job and takes pride in what he looks like. This can make all of the difference in the world.
# Always wear cologne, and I'm not talking about cheap cologne like Preferred Stock. This rule is particularly important if you are frequenting bars and clubs looking for women, because you will be around many other people and a lot of smoke. The last thing you want is to show up at an after party smelling like a smoke bomb and other undesirable things. Every player should take the time to investigate different types of high end cologne and choose one (or many) that he feels is right for him.
# Women are attracted to courageous men, so never appear to be afraid of anything. If you are a wuss and you can't help it, I suggest avoiding situations that may produce confrontations, etc. If you are going to take on the role of the woman-getting alpha male, you must be fully prepared to defend that status even if it means getting into conflicts with other men or doing various things that you are uncomfortable with.
# Always iron your clothes before you go out. Better than that, iron your clothes before you go anywhere, you never know who you'll run into. Having wrinkles in your clothes can greatly affect how attractive women find you. Why do you think women find gay men so attractive? They pay close attention to their appearance and always make sure that they are looking top notch in any situation, so there is no reason why you should not do the same. Having a nice, clean appearance does NOT make you a metro sexual, it simply shows that you care about what you look like.
# While at a bar or nightclub, observe what type of clothes other men that are successful with the ladies are wearing, this will give you a general idea of what to wear. I can't tell you exactly what to wear because fashions tend to vary depending on where you live, but one simple rule to remember is: Dress to impress, always try to over-dress for the occasion. Women almost always assume that the best dressed men in the building are the most successful/highest paid. I'm not telling you to dress in a way that will only attract gold digger, but rather to dress in a way that will make others say "Wow, he looks like someone important."
# Develop a slightly arrogant, upright walk. Your walk greatly reflects how confident you are, and you should know by now that women love confidence. Plus always remember to keep your chest out and shoulders back, this will make you appear to be wider and stronger than you actually are. You want to give the impression that you are a man who is accustomed to getting women all of the time, and in order to do so your body language must show it.
# Always have breath mints or gum on you at all times. If you are talking to a woman and she smells bad breath, this will pretty much ruin your chances of EVER getting a kiss from her. Even us men would be reluctant to kiss someone with dragon breath. Would you kiss a super model if her breath smelled like sour milk?
Article THANKS to becomeaplayer.com
Thursday, March 6, 2008
MUST Rules for becoming more attractive...
Tuesday, February 26, 2008
A list of 19 tips about Approaching (starting PUA)
"Mystery" put together a handy list of crucially important things to do when you approach a beautiful woman.
1. Have a canned opener ready -- This is NOT a night at the improv. Going "situational" (e.g., "it sure is crowded here" or "that's a nice purse") will rarely work. Remember
last time when we talked about how the average girl has been hit on 5,000 times before you came along? Well, most of those 5,000 guys have tried something boring and situational. Use a canned opener -- something that has been repeatedly tested with women and is proven to work.
2. 3-2-1-GO -- The three-second rule was created for a reason. When you see a girl you like, GO. Open her group within three seconds. The failure to do this will "stale you
out". Women like confidence. They don't like to be stalked. They like spontaneity. Wandering around circling her, looking at her, trying to figure out what to do next will turn her off and creep her out. Get into the habit of seeing attractive women and GO in. You've already got your opener ready, right?
3. Approach at an angle -- Do not walk straight up to the group. Approach at angle, tilt your head over your shoulders, and say your piece. Done correctly (and you almost need to see it to do it properly), you raise your value significantly by demonstrating that you do not need their attention or approval.
4. Smile on the approach -- Don't grin like a moron through the entire interaction, but smile as you walk to the set, and in the first few seconds of the opener. Smile with your eyes, not just your mouth.
5. Be loud enough -- Everyone in the group should hear your opener. Your opener should be loud enough that it cuts across whatever conversations they are already having. Don't shout, but make it socially awkward for them not to pay attention to your opener.
6. Don't lean in -- This is connected to being loud enough. You should project your voice enough that they can hear you from a normal standing position (or leaning slightly back).
7. Engage the group -- Do NOT go into a group and talk to the woman you want to meet (the target). Engage the whole group. Pay LESS attention to the target.
8. Neg the target -- You should know what negs are by now. The hotter the girl, the quicker you have to neg. I've seen Mystery open with a neg, as well as negging the target within the first 10 seconds of his opener.
There. Do those things, and you should be able to get through A1 (the opener). As soon as you spot the opportunity, shift gears into A2 (interest/attraction).
I also wanted to talk about some basic fashion and style tips.
1. Untuck that shirt -- Don't go out to a social gathering with a collared, button-down shirt that is tucked in. It's not in style. Trust us.
2. Be taller -- There are plenty of brands of very fashionable shoes and boots that give you extra height. I'm 5'10 normally and 6'1 in the kick-ass pair of black buckled dress shoes that have a couple of inches underneath. Just by itself this has made me more attractive to a large number of women and has given me a chance with some women who wouldn't have talked to me before.
3. Burn that t-shirt -- Don't wear a white t-shirt under your dress shirt. That's so late 80s. It conveys a lack of sexuality. Undo the top two buttons of your shirt (no more!) and show a tiny bit of your chest. If this exposes mounds of chest hair, then get that taken care of too. While you're at it, get rid of short-sleeved button-down shirts too.
4. Get some ornamental stuff -- Earrings, funky shoes, rings, hats, scarves, neck-chains, wrist bands, whatever. Get something. What is purely ornamental (e.g., a double breasted suit, cuff links, a peacock's tail) is sexy. What is purely functional generally is not. See what Mystery, Lovedrop, Sinn, DJ, and the Prophet look like in the field and you'll get it.
5. Make your clothes fit -- Why spend $80 on a shirt off the rack that doesn't fit if you won't spend $5-$10 to have it altered? If it doesn't fit you perfectly, spend a couple of bucks, take it to a dry cleaner/alterations place, and get them to make it fit.
6. Remove excess hair -- If you have any hint of your eyebrows touching, wax or shave them so there is separation. Nose and ear hairs are sexy to NO ONE. Make sure your sideburns, if you have them, have a neat line and definition and are at the same length on each side. Most women prefer shaved chests too, though this depends somewhat on individual preferences.
7. Squelch acne -- First, if you're still getting acne, see a dermatologist. Second, for your acne scars, consider laser skin care (expensive) or makeup (cheap). Get a female friend to help you buy a cover up stick and some powder. You can make your zits vanish for the night.
8. Whiten your teeth -- It's cheap and easy. Go through your dentist, not those white strips. No excuses.
9. Work out -- No excuses. Just do it.
10. Glasses -- Glasses are sexy on some men. They are not on most men. Try contacts or surgery. Savoy tells me that of the bootcamp students he's seen, in 8 months he's told dozens of guys to take off their glasses. Only two guys looked as good or better with their glasses back on.
11. Relax -- Have you done all of this? Great. Now you're out meeting women, don't worry about this anymore. You've done the best you can with what you have. Girls WILL notice. A 6 who takes care of himself (and looks like an 8 because of it) is infinitely more attractive to a woman than an 8 who is a slob (and stays an 8).
Tuesday, February 19, 2008
How to become an Alpha male
The dictionary definition says:
Alpha male (noun): The dominant member in a group of men. Holds strong influence over group activities. Has priority pick when it comes to sex with women.
But, what does that mean?
To help you understand more about what an alpha male is, I'm going to expand on that definition with some real-life examples.
Alpha males convey good status
When a guy walks into a room of people, he will either:
- Assume lower status and look around for a leader to follow or get approval from.
- Assume that he is the leader (or at least one of the leaders) and simply expect others to follow.
Which are you more like at the moment?
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Alpha males are usually confident enough to be cocky & funny
A lot of guys are afraid of saying and doing the things that they would really like to.
This especially applies in social situations, where guys will often use 'safe' humor and behavior to stay 'under the radar' and not be noticed by people.
Being cocky & funny is a typical alpha male quality that - if done correctly - will make women extremely attracted to you, and guys look up and respect you more.
I've written up some free tips on cocky & funny here.
Alpha males are confident
Alpha males are usually very confident guys.
How about you?
- How confident are you around women?
- How confident are you around other guys?
- Do you feel confident in specific areas of your life?
- Do you feel that your lack of confidence in some areas, is holding you back from being the alpha male that you know you could be?
Alpha males have more masculine qualities
Much of being an alpha male is judged by the masculinty of your behavior, actions, body language and how you live your life.
The following is an example of being an alpha male by taking the lead in a social situation.
Imagine that you’re at a bar with women/friends and it feels like time to change venues.
You can say something like:
“Okay, let’s finish our drinks and go somewhere else. You guys want to go to xyz bar?”
Whereas, a guy who isn't an alpha male will lean more towards a question or statement that suggest someone else takes the lead. For example:
"I'm bored, how about you?" and then he'll hope someone else will take the lead and suggest the next action.
Learn more about how to become an alpha male?
Sunday, February 3, 2008
5 Ways to Make a Great First Impression With Women
Any seduction starts before you even speak to a girl, she is making an instant judgment about you as soon as she catches sight of you out of the corner of her eye. Women are much more subtle than men and can make this judgment without you even knowing. Here is how to make a great first impression:
- Look like you are enjoying yourself.
Most men do not enjoy themselves in bars and clubs, they stand shoulder to shoulder, checking out the women and making the occasional comment to each other. They don’t look like they are enjoying each others’ company and are just out to meet women. This creates a bad first impression. When you see people having fun, you want to join them and you have a better first impression – they appear friendlier, safer, and nicer. Even if you are not having fun, look like you are. Look happy to be in the place and try to have higher energy than those around you. Animated body language, a smiling face and exaggerated reactions are ways to look like you are having fun.
2. Do not stare or obviously check out the girls.
Don’t stand shoulder to shoulder with your friend, stand opposite each other and subtly check out the girls over each others shoulder. This is what girls do! It separates you from all the other guys.
If a girl sees you standing around bored and then you approach and put a smile on your face, it seems fake. If you are chatting with the bar staff, talking to men, having fun with friends, and generally being the fun sociable guy, when you talk to her, she will be much more receptive because you have demonstrated that that is how you are with everyone and that your natural character is that of a cool person that likes to meet people.
4. Don’t dress generically.
The rule here is that your clothes should be comment worthy. If a girl cannot say: I like your jeans/shirt/shoes/jacket, then it means it is either ugly or generic. You don’t need to wear outlandish stuff but it should be something that shows you have some personality and aren’t just part of the masses. If you are on a budget, the most important things are the shoes and jacket.
5. Be Well-Groomed Women notice small details. Clean your nails, iron your shirt, wash your hair, trim your nose hair. Little things can completely put a woman off.
ARTICLE Thanks to ThePlayerSociety.com
