Seducing girls - "almost" a complete guide But very good article

Improve appearance on day to day basis. Get organized - written goals/plans. Focus on these 3 areas:
-Gym & nutrition. Girls seem to value strong/raw physique much more than genetic good looks. This alone will transform seduction from a difficult mountain climb to a walk in the park. Girls will be much more cooperative early on. It is an absolute must.
-Dress with distinct style. Take it to the extreme in clubs/disco. Groom adequately. If odor/rash problem, try 5%vinegar instead of soap.
-Improve vibe/body language habits (see app. A)

Go to coffee shop/mall/pub/bar/club at least twice a week. On your way there, first focus on total relaxing - shut down all other thoughts (especially thoughts about girls). Then consider the incredible coincidence that put you into existence. Think about how lucky you are and how great life is compared to not existing. Really feel the gratitude for being alive, and put a big smile on your face. Continue focusing on this and other things you appreciate (see app. B).

When you arrive, all happy and relaxed, your first mission is to find something inside this environment that you appreciate. Then, turn immediately to the nearest girl and tell her. Say something like "I love this song!" or "Wow.. this couch is so soft.. and I love this texture!" (rub the material slowly). If you see a nice girl, tell her immediately (no delay) . Say something like "You look happy!" or "Aww.. you are so cute!" or "Nice hair! Is it real?" or "That shirt looks good on you!"...

Do not try to observe her reaction. Just continue smiling and commenting on things. Sit/stand with your side towards her. Keep everything light and relaxed. No need to talk non stop. Mix in some teasing and humor (see app. C for inspiration).

When she starts asking about you, say "Guess". Then dodge with joke answers (see list). Then break yourself off in middle of telling. Then try _obviously_ to change the subject. Girls find this little game of secrecy very exciting.

When she starts smiling a lot, tell her she smells good. Stroke her lightly. Talk less. Sit closer.

The end.


Appendix A - Vibe/BL

Attractive body language (BL) habits:
-Posture (straight as if pulled up by the back of head)
-Relaxed (eye lids, face, neck&shoulders, breathing etc)
-Spread out (occupying much space)
-Grace (move deliberately and slightly slowed - a bit like tai chi)
-Distant (as if surroundings are not very important - see BL note in app. B)

The 3 main seductive vibes:

Alpha Male - extra slow, arching neck, extra spread out, expand torso as if air balloon inside being filled. Effective for making girls notice you.

Exercise for learning alpha BL: Close your eyes and conjure mental picture of you being leader and protector of your tribe. Notice the BL details and how powerful and dominant you look. In your mind, climb into the picture and walk over to the alpha you. Step inside and become the alpha you with your BL. Notice how it feels. Find out what color do you associate with this feeling, and where in your body this feeling comes from. See how the feeling/color flows out from this place and fill every part of your body from the top of your head to the tip of your toes. Make the feeling intense and the color bright all over your body. Imagine a volume button in the spot where the feeling comes from. Paint it in the same color and notice what it looks like. Imagine it slowly turning the feeling up to double intensity. Then gradually all the way up to 10 times as intense. From now on, turning this dial will boost your alpha vibe no matter what, so no need to think about the details.

Post Coital - extra emphasis on being relaxed and comfy. Extremely laid back and 'chill'. Slightly narrow eyes and some sleepy stretching. Totally unworried and distant, not caring about surroundings. Effective for making girls curious about you. Practice: Imagine having had crazy sex all night and now totally exhausted. Step into this image like described above.

Horny - unlike other two, strongly aware of girl (facing and looking at her). Very relaxed face with low eye lids and open mouth. Heavy breathing, lick/bite lips, let eyes wander down to girl's body. Effective for turning girls on. Practice: think of something that makes you horny and notice how it affects your BL. Intensify feeling. Intensify BL. (credit GunWitch)

Note on learning all this:
Only way to improve BL-habit is daily practice. Create a daily ritual where you first practice BL and then go into each of the 3 seductive attitudes. Do it together with something you already do every day (brushing teeth, walking to office etc..), so you never forget to practice. Make a small list of the things you want to practice, and keep it in bathroom. Also, whenever you catch yourself having bad BL (hunched, tense, hurried etc..), correct it at once.


Appendix B - Appreciate

Appreciation is to hold something in your mind with gratitude. When doing this, bad feelings are shut down and good feelings are strengthened. When a person is in this mental mode, its easy for others to see - its as if the bliss/happiness is bleeding out from every pore. Those feelings are contagious, so others will start to feel good too, even if they don't know why the person is happy. This creates a feeling of friendship and GOOD INTENTIONS. This is why appreciation is the ideal mental frame to be in when meeting new people (and socializing in general).

When focusing on things you dont have, you open your mind to the feeling of need (wanting something). This is the opposite of appreciation and leads to feelings like frustration, insecurity, sadness, discontent and so on. This is also easy for others to see, and it makes others insecure and uneasy about you. They can see you want something. They DOUBT your good intentions. This is why need is the WORST POSSIBLE frame for meeting people.

Needy people suffer from habits of seeking validation from others. Two things must be done to end this habit. The first is to focus your mind on appreciation - stop dwelling on all the stuff you want, and learn to appreciate areas that already satisfy you. Practice this every day. I recommend you do this during a daily routine like teeth brushing. Go through all the things that are going well and take moments to really feel the gratitude for each one.

Secondly, focus on appreciation when you socialize. Look actively for positive qualities in others, and let them know you noticed. Also look for positive things about surroundings or situation and talk warmly about them. Also talk about good experiences you have had lately, emphasizing how good it made you feel. Discipline yourself to steer all conversations down this path. In no time, this will transform you from a needy guy, to the type of guy everyone love to hang with.

A note on BL: Neediness (validation seeking) materializes itself as a large 'awareness radius' (how far away from yourself, you are aware of whats going on). To avoid sending out this bad vibe, try this little mind trick: Imagine a sphere around you. Everything outside the sphere doesn't exist. Then make the sphere as small as possible.


Appendix C - lines you can use or draw inspiration from

Openers:
"Wow you look happy!" (credit Rageking)
"Aww so nice hair - is it real?" (pull hair) "HEY.. it moved!" (credit Style & Mystery)
"Aww what a nice fabric/material!" (grab/touch ha piece of her clothes – credit brooklyn)
"Wow.. I can see you work out.. now and then.."
"Wow, you look incredible today - did you take a shower?" (credit Viberateher)
Bump her so almost falls, then "Are you drunk?" (credit dahunter)
"My invisible friend just told me to talk to you!"
"Aww... you are soooo cute! I want to adopt you!" (credit Papa)
"Aww you are soo cute.. but we could never be a couple - we are too much the same.. we would fight and throw things and have incredible make up sex all over the place and fight more then sex fight sex fight.. too much drama and intense feelings!" (credit TylerDurden)
"Shit! A poisonous snake bit me in the testicles - you got to help me suck out the poison - now!"

Comments:
"Bad girl!"
"Naughty girl!"
"You are trouble! I shouldn't be talking to you!"
"There is something mystical about you!"
"You look like you are hiding something!"
"I can't trust you!"
"Aww you look just like.. a little angel/princess!"

Dodge questions:
"Guess!" (credit TylerDurden)
"I'm an unemployed loser - I live with my mom."
"I'm an angel - one more good deed and I'll get my wings!" (credit TylerDurden)
"I'm a traveling underwear inspector!" (credit TylerDurden)
"I'm a freelance gynecologist - how long is it since your last check?" (credit TylerDurden)
"I'm an orgasmologist!" (credit TylerDurden)
"I'm 16 - 16 and unkissed!"
"You are.. 60! Hehe just kidding! Hey I was only kidding! You are.. 16 - sweet 16! 17 18 19! I refuse to believe you are older than 19!"

Misc:
"I lost my teddy (puppy dog face).. would you sleep with me?"
"Aww I love you.. like a sister!"
"Won't you get too aroused if I sit this close?" (credit Nathan Szilard)
"I'm hard - are you wet?"
"My bedroom has a very interesting ceiling!"
"Aww.. you are so cute.. but we could never be a couple.. my mom would never approve!"
"My mom told me to stay away from bad girls!"
"I should have listened to my mom!" (Later in sarge)
"WTF!? I got no friends! Aha.. it must be my mom!" (Cell phone rings)
"I got phone phobia - is it ok if I make my mom call you?" (During #close)
"I dont know need to ask my mom." (credit Nightblue)
"My mom told me to be home before ten." (credit Nightblue)
"I can't help it. My mother raised me too well." (if she says you are too nice) (credit Style)
"I'm soooo lonely (puppy) I got no friends and nobody wants me! Tonight I'll go to bed all alone and cry silently until I fall asleep."
"I'm no good! I cheat, lie and dump girls on valentine's day."
"I'm no good for you - he is cute - he suits you - you look cute together!"
"Yeah I'm such a looser - you should get with this guy - look how cute he is, and he really likes you!"
"My penis is extremely small!"
"I'm a virgin!"
"Girls are so scary!"
"Im shy."
"This is why nobody wants me.. big tummy" (putting belly out and tapping it) "and tiny dick" (indicate 1 inch w/fingers + sad puppy face)
"I collect trash - I'm a trash man! Trash is MY LIFE! I plan a big career in trash!"
"As always, I'm out looking for my future wife. I have NO IDEA why its so hard to find her - I only have 2 tiny requirements! I'm a modest man - I don't ask for much! A perfect body.. and she must be VIRGIN. My dick is so small! I don't want her to have anything to compare me with. It would make me so insecure! I want to be her first and only lover! She must not have a dildo either. I'm afraid the dildo would come between us!"
Get up, stretch, look around and say "I got to go" … "to the toilet" with a wicked grin.
"Are you rich? Aww I need a rich GF who can support me while I start a boy band - The Whatever Boys! But hey - I need groupies too! But you don't look like groupie material - she can be my groupie and you can be my manager! Yeah!" (credit TylerDurden)


Appendix D - Some sex advice
-Don't undress girls. Start sexing instead (rubbing and dry-humping).
-Rub slowly towards pussy but make a turn so you barely miss it.
-When rubbing pussy, just graze it.
-When licking pussy, don't dive in. Home in slowly. Lick inner thighs a lot, barely touching pussy when you change side. Take time licking areas *close* to the pussy before licking IT.
-When time to put it in, don't! Rub clit with head of cock and put only head inside. Go back and forth between rubbing and putting only head inside.
-When fucking, start *very* slow and focus on getting maximum range of motion with every thrust. Accelerate much slower than she wants to.
Article thanks to fastseduction.com

A list of 19 tips about Approaching (starting PUA)

"Mystery" put together a handy list of crucially important things to do when you approach a beautiful woman.

1. Have a canned opener ready -- This is NOT a night at the improv. Going "situational" (e.g., "it sure is crowded here" or "that's a nice purse") will rarely work. Remember
last time when we talked about how the average girl has been hit on 5,000 times before you came along? Well, most of those 5,000 guys have tried something boring and situational. Use a canned opener -- something that has been repeatedly tested with women and is proven to work.

2. 3-2-1-GO -- The three-second rule was created for a reason. When you see a girl you like, GO. Open her group within three seconds. The failure to do this will "stale you
out". Women like confidence. They don't like to be stalked. They like spontaneity. Wandering around circling her, looking at her, trying to figure out what to do next will turn her off and creep her out. Get into the habit of seeing attractive women and GO in. You've already got your opener ready, right?

3. Approach at an angle -- Do not walk straight up to the group. Approach at angle, tilt your head over your shoulders, and say your piece. Done correctly (and you almost need to see it to do it properly), you raise your value significantly by demonstrating that you do not need their attention or approval.

4. Smile on the approach -- Don't grin like a moron through the entire interaction, but smile as you walk to the set, and in the first few seconds of the opener. Smile with your eyes, not just your mouth.

5. Be loud enough -- Everyone in the group should hear your opener. Your opener should be loud enough that it cuts across whatever conversations they are already having. Don't shout, but make it socially awkward for them not to pay attention to your opener.

6. Don't lean in -- This is connected to being loud enough. You should project your voice enough that they can hear you from a normal standing position (or leaning slightly back).

7. Engage the group -- Do NOT go into a group and talk to the woman you want to meet (the target). Engage the whole group. Pay LESS attention to the target.

8. Neg the target -- You should know what negs are by now. The hotter the girl, the quicker you have to neg. I've seen Mystery open with a neg, as well as negging the target within the first 10 seconds of his opener.

There. Do those things, and you should be able to get through A1 (the opener). As soon as you spot the opportunity, shift gears into A2 (interest/attraction).

I also wanted to talk about some basic fashion and style tips.

1. Untuck that shirt -- Don't go out to a social gathering with a collared, button-down shirt that is tucked in. It's not in style. Trust us.

2. Be taller -- There are plenty of brands of very fashionable shoes and boots that give you extra height. I'm 5'10 normally and 6'1 in the kick-ass pair of black buckled dress shoes that have a couple of inches underneath. Just by itself this has made me more attractive to a large number of women and has given me a chance with some women who wouldn't have talked to me before.

3. Burn that t-shirt -- Don't wear a white t-shirt under your dress shirt. That's so late 80s. It conveys a lack of sexuality. Undo the top two buttons of your shirt (no more!) and show a tiny bit of your chest. If this exposes mounds of chest hair, then get that taken care of too. While you're at it, get rid of short-sleeved button-down shirts too.

4. Get some ornamental stuff -- Earrings, funky shoes, rings, hats, scarves, neck-chains, wrist bands, whatever. Get something. What is purely ornamental (e.g., a double breasted suit, cuff links, a peacock's tail) is sexy. What is purely functional generally is not. See what Mystery, Lovedrop, Sinn, DJ, and the Prophet look like in the field and you'll get it.

5. Make your clothes fit -- Why spend $80 on a shirt off the rack that doesn't fit if you won't spend $5-$10 to have it altered? If it doesn't fit you perfectly, spend a couple of bucks, take it to a dry cleaner/alterations place, and get them to make it fit.

6. Remove excess hair -- If you have any hint of your eyebrows touching, wax or shave them so there is separation. Nose and ear hairs are sexy to NO ONE. Make sure your sideburns, if you have them, have a neat line and definition and are at the same length on each side. Most women prefer shaved chests too, though this depends somewhat on individual preferences.

7. Squelch acne -- First, if you're still getting acne, see a dermatologist. Second, for your acne scars, consider laser skin care (expensive) or makeup (cheap). Get a female friend to help you buy a cover up stick and some powder. You can make your zits vanish for the night.

8. Whiten your teeth -- It's cheap and easy. Go through your dentist, not those white strips. No excuses.

9. Work out -- No excuses. Just do it.

10. Glasses -- Glasses are sexy on some men. They are not on most men. Try contacts or surgery. Savoy tells me that of the bootcamp students he's seen, in 8 months he's told dozens of guys to take off their glasses. Only two guys looked as good or better with their glasses back on.

11. Relax -- Have you done all of this? Great. Now you're out meeting women, don't worry about this anymore. You've done the best you can with what you have. Girls WILL notice. A 6 who takes care of himself (and looks like an 8 because of it) is infinitely more attractive to a woman than an 8 who is a slob (and stays an 8).

Article Thanks to FastSeduction.com

How to Develop and Use Story Telling Skills to Attract Women

I find most guys interesting to talk to. I can always find something I have in common with them – chicks, computers, games, sci-fi, chicks, sports, chicks, politics, chicks and so on.

However, to women what most guys talk about to other guys is well...

MORE BORING THAN WATCHING PAINT PEEL OFF THE WALLS !

And I think most guys, at least on some subconscious level, know this.

That’s why when you’re with a woman you don’t go on and on about guy topics, if you’re smart. Because you know you’ll BORE her.

That’s why a lot of guys on dates avoid guy talk. But at the same time, they don’t know how to speak girl talk either.

So they’re left with a void – and left racking their brains trying to think of what to say next.

They usually end up asking fill-the-void back-up questions like, “So what’s your major?” and “What do you do?” and “How many brothers and sisters do you have?” These are all boring questions.

I almost completely avoid cliché questions like “So what do you do?” until AFTER I’ve slept with a girl.

One time I tried an experiment where I asked a girl nothing but boring questions just to prove my point. After about 30 minutes into our conversation the girl asked me sarcastically, “What is this 20 questions or something? Stop asking me so many things.”

The million dollar question is then... HOW do you fill "the void”?

Easy.

Tell STORIES.

Yes, that’s right – become a storyteller.

Storytelling accomplishes a number of objectives that normal guy talk and asking questions doesn’t.

1) Storytelling is ENTERTAINING.

Ever notice how as a child, you were always read STORIES? Notice now, how as an adult, you turn on the TV to watch STORIES?

Even a science show on the Discovery Channel like “Mythbusters” is told as a story. You’re not just presented with the fact that an urban legend was busted or not – that would be too boring to watch. Instead, you’re shown HOW Jamie and Adam busted the myth or not and all the HUMAN INTERACTION between them that follows.

That’s because people naturally like stories.

People naturally like stories because stories are naturally entertaining.

2) Storytelling takes women on an emotional journey.

A good story evokes emotions.

A good story will bring a woman through a series of emotional states such as, for example, from intrigue and curiosity to surprise and ending on laughter. The series of states is not necessarily complex. The story may simply start on a point of intrigue and lead to a funny ending.

The point is, women like to feel good emotional states. Stories are like a drug for them so that they can get their emotion fix.

3) Storytelling makes women laugh.

Most women want a guy that makes them a laugh and stories are extremely effective at delivering the female smiles.

Even a story about something morbid or mundane can be modified to have a few laughing points in it – even if you have to make the funny parts up.

For example, you might have a rather serious story about how your Aunt got into a car accident and broke her leg, but you could still crack a joke about how her car was such a piece of junk in the first place that it looked better AFTER the accident.

Notice how these three objectives – 1) entertainment, 2) emotional journey, and 3) laughter – are all closely interrelated. In fact, they are all pretty much the same thing.

If you are being entertained, it is highly likely you are experiencing an emotional journey as well as laughing. If you are laughing, it is highly likely that you’re being entertained and being taken on an emotional journey.

So if you’re accomplishing one, most likely you’re accomplishing the other two as well.

Now, more importantly, WHAT should your stories be about?

MOST stories that women love to listen to involve PEOPLE INTERACTING.

In other words, relationships.

In fact, in general your story MUST include people interacting.

You see, this is where most guy stories about sports, computers, science fiction, your hobbies, politics, and so forth go terribly wrong.

It’s not that they’re bad subjects to talk about with women in and of themselves.

The problem is that when guys talk about these things, there’s NO PEOPLE IN THEM. And when there is a person, that person is not interacting with anyone else.

BORING!

Look at the most popular shows on television today like "Desperate Housewives", “Survivor”, “The Bachelor”, and "The Apprentice".

Whether you consider yourself above watching these kinds of reality shows or not, millions and millions of people DO.

What makes these shows so wildly popular?

All of these shows are NOTHING BUT scenes PACKED with complex person-to-person interactions.

Every scene from the “The Bachelor” is either girl fighting girl, girl falling in love with guy, guy falling in love with girl, girl forming friendship with girl, and so on ad infinitum.

From these human interactions we LEARN about human nature. We LEARN how to better select mates ourselves. It’s a story that we know has an outcome. That’s why it’s so interesting and entertaining.

And that’s why your “How I picked out what car I decided to buy,” story is crap.

That’s why your “How I studied really hard and got a good job,” story blows.

In the first case, it would be much better how your Mom was really against your decision to buy that car and how you got into a big fight with her, and through that conflict you learned something about your relationship with your Mom that you’d never realized before – and how you were able to get past your differences with her.

Stories can be about simple, casual interactions you’ve experienced with people. If the situation was unusual, so much the better. Like the time you...

... brought your girlfriend to a swinger’s club and how she reacted to it.

... or how you and your friends would egg houses on Halloween and almost got caught.

... or how you were at a concert and met the band.

... or why your best friend just broke up with his girlfriend of five years.

Notice how all of these stories are about relationships and how the relationship CHANGED from the beginning of the story as compared to the end.

Now you know WHY to tell stories and now you know WHAT they should be about.

But the even bigger question is HOW to tell them.

Now, if you’re not a seasoned, practiced storyteller, storytelling that is entertaining can be a HARD skill to pick up. Storytelling takes a lot of PRACTICE.

In fact, it can be about as difficult as learning how to surf.

If you’re not careful, a strong wave can pick the surfboard up and slam you in the face with it.

However, I’ll share with you my one technique that makes storytelling EASY.

This technique takes all of the guesswork out of storytelling

This technique takes all of the pressure off of you.

This technique makes your storytelling FOOL-PROOF.

And that is, write out your story AHEAD OF TIME and MEMORIZE it. Practice it out loud four or five times at home and then use it out in the field with women. Tell the SAME story again, and again, and again.

The fact is, your story won’t be really smooth until you’ve used it with a girl or group of girls at least three times. It takes at least that many times to gauge how women will react to your story and what you can do to improve it.

In other words, do NOT try to make up cool stories on the fly in the middle of an interaction. Most likely, it will be lame and you’ll fall flat on your face.

It’s a myth that "naturals" make up and tell great stories on the fly.

The reality is, that "natural" has told that very same story a THOUSAND times to a THOUSAND different people. That’s why the story is so good. He has practiced it over and over again. It's a routine.

It just sounds like he’s saying it for the very first time to YOU.

But in reality it’s been thoroughly rehearsed to DEATH.

The natural storyteller doesn’t think of it as rehearsal, but that’s what he’s doing – rehearsing, rehearsing, rehearsing – the SAME stories over and over again.

So write one or two entertaining, emotional journey, laugh-evoking stories that involve people interacting. Rehearse them to yourself until you’ve got them memorized and then use them again and again, over and over, to fill “the void”.

You’ll instantly separate yourself from the 99% of guys who only know how to talk about guy things or ask boring, cliché questions.

Now, are you interested in learning more about keeping up your end of the conversation – and being funny and entertaining while doing so?

So check out the Seduction Science System now and see what it could immediately do for you.

Approaching Women In Nightclubs

• Always Smile
• Look like your there to have fun, not to pick up women.
• Plant Seeds. Simple greetins when you pass a chick, smiling and winking at another, etc.
• NEVER hang out or be seen with the other guys who aren't dancing.
• Be different. Keep every conversation unique, ask open-ended questions, etc.
• If you're new to the club scene and nervous, set your sights kinda low. I don't mean dance with fatties or complete uglies, just don't approach the drop dead gorgeous ones first. Dancing with just ONE woman usually results dancing with every woman in the joint, even if the first one you dance with is a 6 or a 7 on the looks scale.
• The worst thing you can do is say excuse me, pardon me, or anything where you're asking for their permission for you to talk to them. Just start talking. You dont need their permission. If you start like you need their permission, then you're just another tool in the crowd.

Article thanks to theplayersociety.com

Cologne Trick

Oh I love this one...

^{One tip that I learned from a friend I met via the community was as slick as it comes. Carry one of those tiny ass sample bottle of cologne in your pocket when you go to a chicks house. Before you leave, spray it on her bed, her couch, her towels... Everywhere where it will stick. After you leave the chick, she will still smell your scent around the place and will definitely believe that she can't get you out of her head! This chick had called my man, Cod3r, back saying, "I just can't stop thinking about you. It's like I can't still smell you right next to me." (or something like that). I had to try it myself... In fact, I tried it three times and duplicated the success all-- three-- times. Be careful though, I had one of those tiny thin bottles and it broke in my pocket. Hah. Hope this helps fellas.
Article thanks to ТhePlayerSociety.com}

How to become an Alpha male

The dictionary definition says:

Alpha male (noun): The dominant member in a group of men. Holds strong influence over group activities. Has priority pick when it comes to sex with women.

But, what does that mean?

To help you understand more about what an alpha male is, I'm going to expand on that definition with some real-life examples.


Alpha males convey good status

When a guy walks into a room of people, he will either:

1. Assume lower status and look around for a leader to follow or get approval from.
2. Assume that he is the leader (or at least one of the leaders) and simply expect others to follow.

Typically, alpha males are like the second type of guy.

Which are you more like at the moment?

Status is explained in more detail in our ground-breaking eBook that every modern man simply must have: The Flow.


Alpha males are usually confident enough to be cocky & funny

A lot of guys are afraid of saying and doing the things that they would really like to.

This especially applies in social situations, where guys will often use 'safe' humor and behavior to stay 'under the radar' and not be noticed by people.

Being cocky & funny is a typical alpha male quality that - if done correctly - will make women extremely attracted to you, and guys look up and respect you more.

I've written up some free tips on cocky & funny here.


Alpha males are confident

Alpha males are usually very confident guys.

How about you?

• How confident are you around women?
• How confident are you around other guys?
• Do you feel confident in specific areas of your life?
• Do you feel that your lack of confidence in some areas, is holding you back from being the alpha male that you know you could be?

At The Modern Man, we've developed a proven system for building and maintaining confidence in all areas of your life.


Alpha males have more masculine qualities

Much of being an alpha male is judged by the masculinty of your behavior, actions, body language and how you live your life.


The following is an example of being an alpha male by taking the lead in a social situation.

Imagine that you’re at a bar with women/friends and it feels like time to change venues.

You can say something like:

“Okay, let’s finish our drinks and go somewhere else. You guys want to go to xyz bar?”

Whereas, a guy who isn't an alpha male will lean more towards a question or statement that suggest someone else takes the lead. For example:

"I'm bored, how about you?" and then he'll hope someone else will take the lead and suggest the next action.

Learn more about how to become an alpha male?

The Player's Top 3 Tips...

-1- Tease her with attention. While you are macking on a particular girl, go away after you've talked for a while and begin talking to someone else, just say to her "I need to disappear for a bit, I'll be back". Try to make it a male friend that you go talk to, or she will think your a player... (let's make that OUR secret, ok?). This will drive her crazy, and if you've made a decent impression on her, she won't be able to think of anything except you... and when you are going to come back. Some of the bolder females out there may even come and butt into your new conversation. However, if she does not, go back after a short period of time and you will notice that she will be ten times more into you than she was before!
The seductive smile...

-2- Upon making eye contact with a woman that you are interested in, always smile. I'm not talking about one of those huge "say cheese" smiles, rather a smirk (maybe a little bit more than a smirk) that says "I'm happy you've looked at me". Once smiling, hold the gaze for 1-2 seconds, then look away. After looking away, try to get her to make eye contact with you again, if this happens go over and talk to her, because her second look was your invitation.
You've got nothing to lose

-3- The guy who gets rejected the most is the guy who will leave with the most numbers! Quit being scared of rejection and just get out there and do it. The trick is to not think about it, if you start thinking "Should I talk to her or not?" then you will talk yourself out of it. Think about it this way, if you talk to her you might have a 50% chance of being rejected and a 50% chance of success, but if you don't talk to her you have a 0% chance of success. If you don't initiate the conversation it will most likely never take place!
Article thaks to becomeaplayer.com

Opening lines

Start picking -up...
MAKE A GOOD OPENER
i found this list that you may find useful as well. Some Openers are shit some are very good.
but you know :everything is down to the Pick up Artist.
Anyway they might give you some ideas. In the end if other PUAs are uing them and posting them on a forum they should have some success.

MAKE A GOOD OPENER

Get women phone number…

Get women phone number…

Ahh, the moment of truth. Inevitably it will come time to part ways and when it does give her the 'ol "Can I get your phone number?" (or some variation thereof). DO IT!!! Don't chicken out.

To improve your chances of success don't wait for an awkward lull in the conversation. Make her laugh and then pop the question. Also, give her a reason to give you her number. For example, instead of saying, "Can I get your number?" say, "Can I get your number so that we can do something this weekend?" or, "I'd like to get in touch with you again, can I get your number?" You get the idea. This will improve your chances IF you managed to impress her.

In the end, approaching women is a numbers game. A certain percentage of women will already be taken, another percentage doesn't give out their phone number (no matter who asks), a certain percentage isn't interested, but there is, of course, a certain percentage that will give you their number. It may not be a high percentage but there IS a percentage.

Don't be frustrated because you approached 5 girls and none of them gave you their number. I have coached hundreds of men on how to be successful with women. On average, most guys will get rejected 4 out of 5 times. But, that means that if you approach 25 women a week you will get 5 numbers. Don't get frustrated.

Now, you are thinking "This is all fine and dandy but how do I start a conversation? That's the hard part." Well, there is no magic bullet I'm afraid. With practice it will become easier but I won't leave you with nothing.

Here's an opening line that works very well for me

"Why do you look so sad ?" or "Why do you look so happy ?" (depends on how she looks of course). Say it with confidence, with a big smile on your face and it will work well. Give it a try … you'll be pleasantly surprised at how well it works.

This works well for two reasons

1. It is an open ended question. It demands more than a yes or no answer so it will get her talking and leave you with the opportunity to ask more questions.

2. It will set her at ease. It's not a traditional, cheesy pick up line.

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5 Ways to Make a Great First Impression With Women

Any seduction starts before you even speak to a girl, she is making an instant judgment about you as soon as she catches sight of you out of the corner of her eye. Women are much more subtle than men and can make this judgment without you even knowing. Here is how to make a great first impression:

1. Look like you are enjoying yourself.

Most men do not enjoy themselves in bars and clubs, they stand shoulder to shoulder, checking out the women and making the occasional comment to each other. They don’t look like they are enjoying each others’ company and are just out to meet women. This creates a bad first impression. When you see people having fun, you want to join them and you have a better first impression – they appear friendlier, safer, and nicer. Even if you are not having fun, look like you are. Look happy to be in the place and try to have higher energy than those around you. Animated body language, a smiling face and exaggerated reactions are ways to look like you are having fun.

2. Do not stare or obviously check out the girls.

Don’t stand shoulder to shoulder with your friend, stand opposite each other and subtly check out the girls over each others shoulder. This is what girls do! It separates you from all the other guys.

3. Be the fun sociable guy.

If a girl sees you standing around bored and then you approach and put a smile on your face, it seems fake. If you are chatting with the bar staff, talking to men, having fun with friends, and generally being the fun sociable guy, when you talk to her, she will be much more receptive because you have demonstrated that that is how you are with everyone and that your natural character is that of a cool person that likes to meet people.

4. Don’t dress generically.

The rule here is that your clothes should be comment worthy. If a girl cannot say: I like your jeans/shirt/shoes/jacket, then it means it is either ugly or generic. You don’t need to wear outlandish stuff but it should be something that shows you have some personality and aren’t just part of the masses. If you are on a budget, the most important things are the shoes and jacket.

5. Be Well-Groomed

Women notice small details. Clean your nails, iron your shirt, wash your hair, trim your nose hair. Little things can completely put a woman off.

ARTICLE Thanks to ThePlayerSociety.com

How to tell if a girl is Attracted to you

We are surrounded by women all the time and some of these women are attracted to us. So many men question whether a woman is attracted to them or not. Women are much more delicate than men in the way they show their attraction. But once you know the signs, you’ll always be able to tell if a woman is attracted to you. One of these should be sufficient to act on, more than one and it is an explicit “go” signal! Here are the ways women show that they like you:

1. If She Wants to Speak to You:

• She points her feet in the direction of you when standing up.
• She smiles, or looks away embarrassed when you hold eye contact.
• She jerks her leg in your direction if sitting down with legs crossed.
• She adjusts her posture – sits up straighter and tucks in belly.
• She faces you with her hips/legs while sitting down.
• She opens up her body language to you while standing.
• She brushes up against you pointlessly when she passes.
• She looks at you two times before approach.
• She twirls her hair when she notices you.

If you get one of these signals, go in and start a conversation with her. Your next objective is to take the interaction to a point where she wants to have a conversation with you. It might happen instantly or it might not. If you have approached without any of the above invitations, you should look for some of the below to know that she is attracted to you.

1. If She is Interested in making the interaction longer:

• She asks you questions
• She asks your name.
• She gives extended answers to your questions.

So now you know whether she likes you to the point of wanting to talk to you, but how do you know if she wants to get physical with you?

1. If She is Sexually Attracted to You:

• She strokes her neck when in conversation with you.
• She peeks at your mouth.
• She tilts head to the side when speaking to you.
• Her pupils dilate.
• She giggles too much at your jokes, even when they aren’t funny.
• She is happy listening to you even when you are talking rubbish.
• She holds eye contact with you and doesn’t glance around the room or at her friends. Note – if she is anxious and it is just not her character to hold strong eye contact, she could still be interested.
• She is relaxed with you touching her and invading her space.
• She shows enthusiasm to leave her friends and stay with you.
• She laughs and hits you on the shoulder when you tease her.
• She looks at you in a dreaming kind of way.
• She asks if you are single.
• She says your name in conversation.
• She leans in to you.

Now that you know all the ways that a girl can show that she is attracted to you, you will be able to make the move and will stop having missed chances. It will increase your success rate by a huge amount.

Article Thanks to theplayersociety.com

Body Language Basics For Seducing Women

Body language is VERY important. According to studies carried out over 50% of your message comes from your body language – what you DON’T say and less then 8% of your communication comes from what you DO say.

What does this mean to you?

It is MORE significant to pay careful attention to HOW you say things, and HOW you position yourself and HOW you act than it is to WHAT you say (at least initially).

You see, you could have the BEST game in the world and be able to really get any woman to like you loads, for example online, but if you used those same winning techniques in the real world and lacked obvious confidence, lacked eye contact etc – You would simply CRASH and BURN.

Honestly, body language is SOOOO important in attracting women. Later in the course we’ll go into how you can use the female’s body language to READ her mind and know what she’s thinking. This article is about YOUR body language.

Ok… So, I’ll cover the basics as the advanced stuff is beyond the scope of this article (if you want more advanced detail concerning body language you can check out my site: eBook ).

Body language basics:

1. Smile

You have to make the female feel at ease and comfortable that you are a friendly and fun guy and you are not a psycho as quick as possible. Especially when talking to her for the first time. You also need to let her know that you are confident and comfortable around women. A big and genuine smile is the best way to do this. It works. In fact, if you ever get an Ice Queen that you can tell is about to give you the “dead eye”, give her a big smile. Practice smiling at random people. You’ll be surprised by how many people smile back and at how many doors open to you. Smiling WORKS. Just don’t make it a cheesy, fake smile ;)

2. Eye contact

As you know there’s nothing worse than staring at a woman’s chest – or even looking. It makes you just like all the other guys who drool over her. If anything you should use all your skill to NOT look at her chest – she’ll wonder why her womanly powers don’t work with you and she’ll seek your attention and subconsciously TRY to get you to look!

When talking to her, try to uphold eye contact. Not too much because it can be intimidating, but if you aim to have eye contact with her around 70% of the time you are talking, this should be comfortable for most women. Don’t stare like a crazy man, just be natural but if you naturally look away or are slightly shy when it comes to eye contact, make a conscious effort to have a little more. Eye contact can make serious connections within people. They say the eyes are a window to the soul and I think there may be some truth to that. There are even speed dating type events being run that involve just staring into each others eyes – and from what I hear, they are pretty successful.

Maintain eye contact. Not too much, about 70% of conversation time. Be natural.

3. Upright posture

Guys can get away with a bit of a hunch, but women really do prefer men with straight, upright postures. Look at all the big film actors like Pitt, Cruise etc. They all have good posture. It says to a woman you are confident, healthy, and strong (at least in mind). It’s just generally more attractive and says lots about who you are. Plus it’s good for your back and will help strengthen your back muscles making it easier to maintain.

Get into the HABIT of having an upright posture.

4. Gesticulate with open palms

You will not hear this tip anywhere else (or if you do, it was almost certainly copied from this course).

I’ve gone into in depth studies of body language and this one is a good one to use in MANY circumstances – I’ve adapted it here after solid testing to picking up women – however, some people suggest that when combined with a few other verbal and non-verbal techniques it can even give you a 50/50 chance of getting out of speeding fines!

Anyway, basically, when you are talking to a woman and trying to make a point (that puts you in a positive light) or defend yourself (for example, a girl suggests you might be a player) you talk and using your hands you have open palms facing upwards. Keep your arms in front of your body with your palms facing the sky and smile as you talk.

It works VERY well on a subconscious level to suggest you are being honest and telling the truth. And if you want a woman to begin to trust you, making her think you are being straight with her, is important.

This open palm gesticulation MUST be combined with a smile to work effectively.

Those are the basics of body language, if you'd like to learn more visit Tiffany Taylor's site by clicking here

Successful first dates tips

1. Arrive on time
   Not too early, not too late, right on time. This indicates to her that you have your stuff together.
   
2. Be polite
   Be polite to her and everyone else you encounter (waiters, movie attendants, etc.). No one likes or appreciates a jerk.
   
3. Relax
   If you sense that you are getting nervous take a few deep breaths and remind yourself that you are the man and that you are deciding whether or not this girl is worthy of your time. It is important that you concentrate on just having fun. This girl likes you or she wouldn't be with you right now.
   
4. Tip well
   A sign of class. Never, ever skimp on a tip. Tip at the very least 15%.
   
5. Be decisive
   Have a plan. You absolutely MUST avoid, at all costs, ever saying, "I don't know what do you want to do?" Don't second-guess yourself, make excuses or apologize every time you make a small mistake.
   
6. Shut-up
   Try to keep the conversation focused on her. She should do about 70% of all the talking. It is a well known fact that most people enjoy talking about themselves and dislike hearing someone else talk about themselves too much. You may be tempted, if the conversation starts to run out, to tell her all about your family, your pet dog, etc. but you MUST restrain yourself.
   
7. End on a good note
   Say something funny and then get out of there. Don't wait for the date to become boring. If you sense that things are winding down it is better to end while everyone is in a good mood than to risk waiting until she is tired, bored and annoyed.
   
8. Don't be afraid to disagree
   Don't be afraid to say the word "no" or "I disagree" on a date. Women like to know that you have a backbone and will NOT like you more if you are a "yes man" (a.k.a. "doormat")
   
9. Don't act needy
   Very few things will drive a woman away faster. You don't have to be right by her side the whole night and don't be afraid of talking to other people. Also, don't act possessive if she decides to wander away and talk to someone else.
   
10. Be mindful of non-verbal communication
    Don't get tense because this is a big indicator of a lack of confidence. Stand up straight, articulate, look her (and everyone else) in the eye. Women don't like to think that their man is easily scared and intimidated.
Source:
http://www.pick-up-woman.com/successful-first-date-tips.shtml