Top 10: Effective Pickup Lines

Using pickup lines to get close to a woman is something we don't advocate. That’s because pickup lines generally imply that you lack the intelligence or charm to sweep a woman off her feet or, at the very least, get her to notice you. They also have a tendency to seem inherently cheesy and antiquated to all women -- this includes power-suit women, pole dancers and MILFs. We would much rather encourage you to use your creativity and wit to charm the pants off of women than to drop one-liners with intentions of making her melt right into your bed.

For the sake of this article, we won’t dismiss the value of pickup lines entirely; however, we will focus on introductory ice-breakers instead of cheesy lines. Guaranteeing the success of these types of pickup lines is not our purpose; we simply want to provide you with the motivation it takes to approach an attractive woman. Using effective pickup lines can prove successful, as they allow for further conversation, ease the tension and may put a smile on her face.

In general, pickup lines can be used anywhere and in any setting, which works well in environments that may feel intimidating. In the event you are the type of man who finds initiating conversation challenging, using effective pickup lines may be your only option. After all, you have nothing to lose and everything to gain.

Here are 10 effective pickup lines for you to test the next time you’re on the prowl.
Number 10
"Excuse me, is this seat taken?"
Innocent, charming and polite. It is not always safe to assume that a woman sitting next to an empty chair is alone. Your consideration of the fact that she may be saving a seat for someone shows that you have class. What makes this an effective pickup line is the fact that its unobtrusive and gives her the opportunity to invite you to join her if she is alone.
Number 9
"Would you like to dance?"
Hopefully you have enough rhythm in your pants to actually dance. If you impress her with your skills, you might just find yourself at the bar talking about music, the DJ or even the venue. This is among the most effective pickup lines because women like to dance, and if you shuffle your feet right, you might end up doing a tongue tango or the horizontal shuffle.
Number 8
"Can I interest you in a glass of…?"
Insert the type of beverage for which the occasion calls. In most cases, we are speaking of an event or gathering that calls for a glass of wine or a pina colada, and if you’re in college, a beer. If it’s a toned-down occasion, you might offer a soda or lemonade. No matter where you are, this is one of our favorite pickup lines because it affords us the opportunity to display our skills as a connoisseur without being overt about it.
Number 7
"Do you come here often? I could use your opinion about something…"
Before that gulp of beer comes out your nose, hold on. We know that this one sounds like a cheesy pickup line, but you can make it work for you. If you are having a hard time choosing a dish, a beverage or even an article of clothing that best suits you, this is the time to solicit the help of a woman who may happen to frequent the place in question. If you utilize her choice and opinion as a topic of conversation, you’ll see that this is among the most effective pickup lines on the planet.
Number 6
"Excuse me; can you help me with…?"
Here’s where you can come up with a light task for her to help you with, such as winning a bet among friends, naming a song that is playing or even ordering a drink. This will make her feel as though you are interested in her and appreciative of her feedback, opinion or selection. Requesting her assistance gives her a non-verbal indication that you’re impressed with her appearance and ultimately states that her answer is valued.
Number 5
"Don’t you find this place…?"
Insert a word that best describes how you feel about the venue, such as classy, cool, chic, or off the hook. Hopefully, she will share the same opinion, which will ultimately lead to further conversation about the ambiance, the decor and places you have encountered that have similar attributes. Don’t, however, complain; doing so will dampen her mood and turn her off faster than an Eddie Murphy movie.
Number 4
"You look like you might be interested in some great conversation."
If you say this with the right tone and with enough attitude, it’ll put a smile on her face. While this effective pickup line helps you break the ice, it also spontaneously creates a topic to discuss. This could be anything from food to wine or from a current event to the venue. Be sure that you’re as willing to listen as you are to talk, and remember to keep it light and great, which is exactly what you offered.
Number 3
"Would you like an escort to your…"
When you notice a woman walking alone -- perhaps to her table, an elevator or even the bar -- it is always a nice gesture to politely offer her a sense of security. At the same time, it is highly likely that she won’t be walking very far, so exhibiting your charm will be essential to your attempt to break the ice once you’ve delivered your effective pickup line.
Number 2
"Wow! I really like that (insert item of clothing or fragrance) you’re wearing."
Women put great effort into preparing an ensemble that best reflects how they feel and how they want to be perceived by admirers. As such, your compliment tells her that her efforts did not go unnoticed. This small gesture will boost her confidence and earn you all access to front-row conversation. We suggest that you do a little research and arm yourself with tidbits of info relating to women’s fashion so that you will appear sincere while you exercise this highly effective pickup line.
Number 1
"I just thought you should know that you have a really nice…"
Sure, you could say something derogatory, but that would likely get you a slap across the face. But, complimenting features such as her smile, eyes or nose can go a long way in making a woman open up enough to converse with you. Who says flattery gets you nowhere? The key is to make sure that you are genuine about your observation -- women can tell when a guy is trying to lay it on thick just to get close.

the pickup artist
Just remember: Being cheesy isn’t cute and will get you dismissed faster than she can bat an eyelash. On the other hand, being clever and confident with your delivery can get you to the next level. If flattery remains your point of action, make sure not to lay it on too thick. Compliments should be delicate and poured on lightly to ensure their staying power. The objective is to create a conversation starter that best reveals your interest and your intent.
article thanks to askmen.com

What Women HATE Most About Single Guys

If you listen to a group of attractive, single women talking alone over dinner or drinks, the topic will always turn to MEN.

And in most cases, it will eventually turn into a RANT session about how hard it is to find good men to date...

Which will lead to a FULL-ON RAG SESSION about men in general...

...And wind up with a detailed list of all the traits guys have that are ANNOYING AS HELL.

The reality is that single women have an entire laundry list of traits, qualities, and characteristics that they HATE in single guys.

Did you know this?

I didn't think so.

Well, the truth is that up until a few years ago, I didn't know this either.

So take heart in the idea that you're about to learn something that most men on this planet will DIE not knowing.

My hope is that what I'm about to share with you will change how you interact with women FOREVER... and help you meet and date more of the kinds of women you're interested in.

Onward.

FRIENDSHIPS AND ROMANCE

For women, friendships and romantic relationships are two separate things. They are NOT the same.

One can lead to another, but it's RARE when it happens.

Remember that.

One CAN lead to another, but it's RARE.

"Romantic" relationships are very different from "friend" relationships.

While most men would sleep with most of their female "friends" if the woman "came on" to them, most women would NOT sleep with most men that they consider "just friends".

But why is this?

How do women differentiate between "just friends" and "I'll be intimate with you"?

And why is it so hard to become "more than friends" with a woman you've been "just friends" with for a long time?

The answer to this riddle is very interesting to me.

I believe that the answer comes down to understanding HOW women "know" when they want to "be intimate" with a man... and, even MORE importantly, understanding how women "know" when they DON'T want to "be intimate" with a man...

The thing that tells a woman whether the guy she's with is "friend" material or "lover" material is how she FEELS.

It's a combination of EMOTIONAL feelings and PHYSICAL feelings.

It is NOT logic.

She might USE logic to "rationalize" her decision... or she might USE logic to SOUND like she has a good reason for either "being with" or "not being with" a particular guy.

But don't let that distract you.

Logic isn't important AT ALL in this context.

So let me say this another way.

A woman FEELS something emotionally and/or physically, and then she uses those FEELINGS as the basis for her "decisions" and actions with a particular guy.

If she feels that "Ewwww Yuck!" feeling, then her "logical" conclusion will probably not be that she wants to date the guy in question.

If she feels that "It's Gettin' Hot in Here" feeling, then her "logical" conclusion will probably be that this guy is interesting and attractive, and a good "choice" to date. At this point she'll take ACTION on her feelings and thoughts...

It goes like this:

FEEL--->THINK--->ACT

First the FEELING, then the THOUGHT... and THEN the action.

Now, with this in mind, let me ask you an important question:

How do most guys behave around women that they're "romantically" interested in?

And another:

What do they do to get the woman that's the object of their desires to be with them?

Take a few minutes to think about this. Make a list if you have paper and pen handy.

I'm serious. I'll wait.

Come back when you're finished.

Now take a look at your list.

I'll bet that almost every single thing on your list was something "external".

In other words, your list probably contains things like "Take her to dinner" and "Give her compliments" and "Buy her flowers" and "Call her often".

These are all things that demonstrate that he's INTERESTED.

They are NOT things that trigger those emotional and physical feelings inside of a woman that tell her that THIS IS THE GUY.

In other words, men try to use "props" to LET A WOMAN KNOW HE'S INTERESTED...

...HOPING that when the woman sees these displays she'll be interested in him.

Almost NONE of the things men do to court women make women FEEL ANYTHING even remotely similar to "Attraction" and "Arousal".

Of course, you know this.

You've probably done this stuff about a bazillion times. I have, too. I know what it's like to try OVER AND OVER to let a particular woman know that I'm interested... only to have her NOT RESPOND in a "romantic" way.

The PROBLEM with this kind of thing is that it makes TWO HUGE MISTAKES at once.

First, it's just the plain-old wrong way to go. Telling or showing a woman that you "like her" has no effect on how she feels about YOU.

In the moment it sure seems to make sense... "If I show her how I feel, she'll return the feelings".

Duh.

Like I said, it seems like the right thing to do in the moment (when your inner little girl has a big fat crush). But it's not... it will have NO effect on her feelings for you.

And second, it communicates clearly that YOU DON'T GET IT. It tips a woman off INSTANTLY that you're not hip to what's going... and it kills your chances with her.

Say what?

You mean that doing nice things for women and trying to show how you feel can actually HURT your chances with a woman?

Yea, it can.

Look, if you've been dating a woman exclusively for six months, and her birthday comes... it's OK to buy her a gift and tell her that you like spending time with her.

YOU'RE ALREADY IN A RELATIONSHIP.

But if you've known a woman for six DAYS and you try this kind of thing, you're going to shoot yourself in the foot.

Women are EXPERTS at recognizing men who DON'T GET IT. And if you DON'T get it, PLUS you're trying to compensate for the fact that you don't get it with gifts and compliments, then you're REALLY screwed (or not screwed, as the case may be).

Remember what I'm about to tell you.

Burn it into your mind.

Write it on a sticky-note and put it on your computer monitor...

SINGLE, ATTRACTIVE WOMEN WATCH MEN TRY TO WIN THEM OVER ALL DAY LONG. THEY KNOW WHEN A GUY DOESN'T "GET IT"... AND

THEY'RE ANNOYED WHEN A GUY WHO DOESN'T "GET IT" JUST KEEPS TRYING AND TRYING AND TRYING.

Keep in mind that single, attractive women watch guys do this stuff 24/7. They shake their pretty heads and say "He doesn't get it... He doesn't get it... He doesn't get it" over and over and over.

The point is that if you DON'T GET IT, then nothing you do is going to work for you.

The problem is bigger than you can imagine, and you're going to need to take a totally different road to get where you're going...

WHAT ATTRACTIVE WOMEN HATE MOST ABOUT SINGLE GUYS...

Let's return to where we started.

There are a few particular things that REALLY annoy single, attractive women.

One of the reasons that these things annoy women is because they're DEAL KILLERS.

A woman can like everything about you, but if you do these things (or even ONE of these things); it can DESTROY your chances of success with a particular woman.

Here are a few of the BIG things that single women hate:

1) Giving Up Your Status In Exchange For Her Attention and Approval

If I had to describe the one single thing that both annoys women and DESTROYS a guy's chances, it would be this.

It has taken me a long time to see this particular pattern, but it's EVERYWHERE.

Men, in effect, say "Hi, I want your approval and attention. I'm willing to let YOU be the one who's in control... and let YOU call the shots... and do anything to please YOU... if you'll give me your attention and approval".

But the problem is that women DON'T WANT you to give up your status and "manliness".

Women aren't ATTRACTED to men who act weak and tentative.

Women secretly HATE IT when a guy does something to demonstrate that he'll give away his power in return for approval.

THEY HATE IT!

I could literally write an entire book on this one single concept.

Take a few minutes to think this one over, and maybe write down the ways that you make this mistake with women.

More importantly, think about how you're going to STOP DOING IT IMMEDIATELY.

2) Being Needy, Clingy, and Insecure

When one person "clings" to another person "psychologically", the person who is being "clinged to" RESENTS and REJECTS the needy, clingy emotional parasite...

This is WUSS behavior at its worst.

If a guy is on the phone with a girl he just met, and she says "Hey, I have to go", he might say "Aw, well... um... OK. Um, will you call me when you get home?".

Or let's say a guy and a girl are out on their first date, and they're walking around in a large department store.

Most guys will follow the woman everywhere, and not leave her side for a minute.

If she wanders away, he'll come find her IMMEDIATELY.

He'll stay physically close to her, as if he's afraid she'll leave without him.

And an even worse example is a guy who is so emotionally insecure that he actually ASKS a woman to tell him that he's nice, fun, interesting, etc.

"Do you think I'm interesting?"

"Do you think we could ever have a relationship?"

"Am I your type?"

Women HATE this stuff. It makes them shiver with the heebie-jeebies. It makes them want to RUN AWAY.

3) Not Leading - And Even Worse, Trying To Get Her to Lead

Women have WUSS-DAR.

One of the things that trigger a woman's WUSS-DAR is a man who FOLLOWS.

The REAL problem is that most women won't try to LEAD naturally.

So you've got a situation where a man is trying to FOLLOW a woman who isn't LEADING.

He's looking for little cues so he knows where to go and what to do... but he isn't getting them.

So what does he do?

He ASKS for them!

He says "So, I was thinking of maybe taking you to Olive Garden for dinner... how does that sound?”

Everything about the way he asks says to the woman "I'm trying to figure out what you want me to do... please help me know how you want me to act, where you want me to take you, and what you want me to say".

This is ATTRACTION DEATH!

Men who don't lead, and even worse, tries to get a woman to lead, ANNOY THE HELL OUT OF SINGLE WOMEN.

They HATE IT!

4) Using Insecure, Approval-Seeking, Low-Status Posture, Gestures, Voice Tone, and Body Language

There's a term that single, attractive, in-demand women use to describe men who use weak, approval-seeking posture, gestures, comments, and mannerisms...

The term is "NICE".

"He's nice... but... there's no chemistry."

This is one of those areas that's not easy to talk about.

Since SO DAMN MANY GUYS do this stuff, it's almost impossible to explain.

It's like trying to tell a fish that they're not going to get anywhere in life if they stay wet.

The fish doesn't even KNOW it's wet in the first place.

But let me try.

This is important.

Go spend a day observing couples.

Go places where couples that have just met spend time together.

Bars, clubs, coffee shops, whatever.

Now watch the GUYS.

Watch how they lean towards the women.

Watch how they raise their eyebrows in exaggerated response to women's comments.

Watch how they slump over, let their shoulders fall forward, and smile fake-ly at whatever the women say.

If you're close enough, listen to how men ask questions and make comments with a voice tone that says "I'm insecure and I'm trying to be extra nice to compensate for it".

You'll see it EVERYWHERE.

In fact, you'll see it so much that you'll probably write me back to tell me that I'm the one who's crazy, and that since it happens so much, it must be "the right way".

Well, it's not.

If there's one thing that triggers an attractive single woman's WUSS-DAR, it's a man's posture, gestures, eye contact, voice tone, etc.

It all happens in an INSTANT.

Women read this stuff and interpret it as instantly and accurately as you read and interpret the cover of Playboy.

NO ANALYSIS NECESSARY.

I'd say that probably 90% of all men alive today INSTANTLY disqualify themselves with women because of this problem.

Their voice tone, gestures, posture, etc. TELEGRAPH the message that they're a WUSS.

They do a thousand weird little things to let a woman know that they're uncomfortable and "not being themselves".

And you guessed it...

Single women HATE IT!

5) Not Understanding that she’s A Woman and you’re A Man

I'm about to get philosophical on your ass, so be cool.

When it comes down to it, most men don't understand women.

But the REAL kicker is that most men don't understand MEN, either!

Most guys don't know what it's like to get in touch with their MALE NATURE.

Combine these two issues, and you get a guy who behaves in ways that DO NOT trigger ATTRACTION in women.

Women have a "nature". A female nature.

Men also have a "nature". You guessed it, it's a MALE nature.

Women are coy. They like to play hard to get. They like to enjoy the chase. They love anticipation. They love to "let a guy catch them"...

Men are competitive. Men are dominant. Men like to play rough games, win things, and rule their territory.

Well guess what?

Most men don't BEHAVE like men when they're in the presence of a woman that they "like".

And since most men don't understand female human nature, they don't demonstrate that they "get it" when they're with women that they "like".

Women like men. Men like women. There are POWERFUL causes at play here.

When you're around a woman you like, don't act like a GIRLY-MAN. It's not sexy, and it's not attractive...

And single women HATE IT!

6) Not Being Interesting To Be Around

Underneath most behavior that I see most guys acting out is a "core belief" that goes like this:

"I don't believe that an attractive woman would want to be around me just because she enjoys my presence... so I make up for it by saying and doing certain things that I hope she'll enjoy... and if she enjoys those other things enough, then maybe she'll want to spend more time with me."

Heavy, man.

Well guess what? Most attractive single women KNOW that if a guy isn't interesting to be around, they she's eventually going to go CRAZY being around him.

In other words, no amount of material gifts, compliments, dinners, and other "displays" will EVER compensate for a lack of BEING INTERESTING.

Here's a profound thought:

I and several other guys I know have many women who call us often... just because they enjoy being around us.

These women would be happy just to be in the same room with us... and enjoy our company.

And yes, these women CALL US.

Often.

Material gifts, food, flowers, and other "displays" have ZERO lasting value to a woman when it comes to how she FEELS about you...

An attractive single woman wants a guy who LIGHTS HER UP. She wants to FEEL GOOD.

She wants mystery... she wants to laugh... she wants a challenge... she wants sexual tension...

If you're using compliments, gifts, food, and other "displays" to get a woman's attention... you need to ask yourself a tough question:

Is it because you don't believe that a woman would want to be around you just to be around you?

Because if you don't know how to be INTERESTING to a woman, then no amount of compensation is going to fix the problem.

If you're boring, predictable, and uninteresting, then you're never going to have women calling YOU to hang out.

Oh, and women HATE IT.

7) Not Understanding Attraction

This is a BIGGIE.

You hear me talking about it all the time, right?

Maybe now that you've read this newsletter you'll have a better context to understand what I'm about to tell you...

If you "get it" with women, it's SUPER INTERESTING and ATTRACTIVE to them.

Women can INSTANTLY FEEL IT when they're with a guy who "gets it".

Women know very quickly if they're talking to a guy who understands himself and women... and who enjoys creating and building sexual tension.

Women know if a guy speaks the SECRET LANGUAGE of "Sexual Communication".

If he doesn't, then she stops all communication on that level.

If he does, then it continues.

ATTRACTION Isn't A Choice.

Attraction is an emotional and physical RESPONSE... and you can't "convince" a woman to feel it with logic, gifts, and NICENESS.

Attraction is the result of a woman meeting a man who understands how attraction works... and who knows what to do in each specific situation to progress to the next level.

The PROBLEM with ATTRACTION and with success with women in general is that the things you need to DO to be successful are NOT OBVIOUS.

They're "counter intuitive", in many cases.

In other words, they're the OPPOSITE of what you'd THINK would make sense.

You have to do things like CREATE TENSION... stop doing something that she likes... give her time to miss you... etc.

And if you don't understand ATTRACTION, a woman is going to KNOW IT.

And guess what?

Single women HATE IT when a man doesn't understand ATTRACTION and how to communicate on this "other level".

Now that I've shared the mistakes, you need the next piece of the puzzle. You need to get an education on how attraction works for women... and the RIGHT things to do up front to give her those emotional/physical feelings inside.

Right now you're probably feeling that excited "Ah Ha!" feeling.

That's because you understand something at a different level... you've used your mind to understand something complex... and you feel good about bettering yourself.

Well this is just the TIP of the iceberg.

As educational as this has been, this is only the beginning.

If you're starting to realize how important it is to get this area of your life handled, then I recommend you make a commitment and take your education to a WORLD CLASS level.

And what's the best way to do that?

Well, I've spent the last several years of my life figuring out exactly what does and doesn't work with women.

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David DeAngelo

Openers For Approaching and Picking Up Women

Openers
I know a lot of you guys are just breaking out of your shells and still need a little bit of help when approaching and picking up women, so I made this section to give you some basic risk-free openers that have been proven to work when attracting women. Enjoy!

Group Openers

* Which of you girls is the toughest?
* Which of you guys gets hit on the most?
* I know that look, are you guys male-bashing?


Openers For Any Situation

* Hey, I’m out meeting people tonight, what’s your name?
* How’s it going? We’re out picking up chicks.
* Are you single? So when are you asking me out?


Coffee Shop Openers

* Approach a girl (or group of) and say this "Hey, I'm doing a poll for college and I was wandering if you could help me out" once they say ok, ask them "Do you believe in Ghosts?"


Campus/School Openers

* Hey I need your opinion. I'm going on a blind date with a girl and I'm nervous, are there any tips you can give me so I don't look like an idiot?
* Hey, I'm new here, could you show me where the library is? (Then afterward) Ask to go for coffee.


Bookstore Openers

* Excuse me Miss, do you know any good books on relationships? My friend wants to spice up her sex life, any ideas?
* (While reading a book nonchalantly, shake your head and say) I just can't find what I'm looking for. How is your book, is it any good?


Mall Openers

* Hey, do you know where the JC Penny is at? I'm looking for a birthday for my little sister. Actually, have you got any ideas?
* (In a clothing store) Hey, I need a female opinion, what would look better, this or that?
* (Approaching a group) So how do you all know each other?


Club/Bar Openers

* Are you guys shy? I've been talking to my buddy here for ten minutes and you still haven't said "hi" to us.
* Can I buy you a drink? (after she says yes) Can I borrow 5 bucks?
* Are you guys super-shy or what? I’ve been here for ten minutes and you haven’t offered to buy me a drink or even said hello.
* I know you probably get no attention from guys whatsoever, so I thought I’d come and make some conversation with you.

thanks to theplayersociety.com

Mini-Rules For Approaching Women

Mini-Rules For Approaching Women

1. Make sure you are in the right avenue for approaching (I.E. not at a funeral)

2. Avoid picking up angry/sad looking women.

3. Figure out what you're going to say before you say it.

4. If she's giving one-word answers, leave, she is not interested or attracted to you.

5. Just do it, and don't over analyze!

thanks to theplayersociety.com

Flirting tips - or how to pick up and get laid the easy way 1.4

• This one is just dirty

Tease her with attention. While you are macking on a particular girl, go away after you've talked for a while and begin talking to someone else. Try to make it a male friend you go talk to, or she will think your a player... (let's make that OUR secret, ok?). This will drive her crazy, and if you've made a decent impression on her, she won't be able to think of anything except you... and when your going to come back. Some of the bolder females out there may even come and butt into your new conversation. However, if she does not, go back after a short period of time and you will find her most happy that you did.

• Tickle tickle tickle

Once you think she feels comfortable around you, and if it would be appropriate given the current situation, ask her if she is ticklish. If she answers yes or maybe, proceed with the tickling. If she answers no, say "I think your lying" and proceed with the tickling. From my observations, I would say that eight out of ten girls are ticklish. Plus, if she really likes you and is truly not ticklish, she will fake it anyway. Tickling is a very good trick to use because it involves touching, and you should touch her whenever possible. I can't really explain it, but for some reason women respond very well to the touch, as long as it's delivered in a respectful manner (no ass or boob grabbing people).

• The seductive smile...

Upon making eye contact with a woman that you are interested in, always smile. I'm not talking about one of those huge "say cheese" smiles, rather a smirk (maybe a little bit more than a smirk) that says "I'm happy you've looked at me". Once smiling, hold the gaze for 1-2 seconds, then look away. After looking away, try to get her to make eye contact with you again, if this happens go over and talk to her, because her second look was your invitation.

• Do this... but watch out for a cat fight!

While you are talking to a group of girls, always remember to flirt with ALL of them, even the ones that you don't find attractive. This will put them into "competitive mode", in which all of the women will begin to try to win your affection because of your display of interest in each of them. Once this is accomplished you will be able to have your pick out of any of them, because the woman you choose will feel like she is the "winner". Every girl wishes to feel like she is the best looking in her group, and if you help her achieve this goal, you will become her player in shining armor :)
aritcle thanks to www.becomeaplayer.com

Flirting tips - or how to pick up and get laid the easy way 1.2

• On the rebound

Whenever a girl that you are talking to brings up the subject of her ex-boyfriend, you've got to immediately change the subject every time she does... the last thing you want is for her to think you are a "shoulder to cry on". If you learn that she had just recently gotten out of a long-term relationship it's kind of a sticky situation... you can most likely get her to want you in terms of sex/messing around... but after a relationship that lasted that long its too soon to pressure her into a relationship, it could possibly scare her off. The best thing might be to first get her in a playful mood or at least happy (and most importantly not thinking about her ex and realizing how much fun she is having without him) then explain to her that you want her to be your girl but you don't want to rush anything... tell her that you'll move at her pace and if she wants you to back off a little and slow down all she has to do is say so and you will... then tell her that you don't like playing games and if she wants to be your girl she going to have to tell you.

• It was an accident, I swear!

Here is a good one I used a few times back in school... but it'll require some balls on your part. What you do is bump into her in the hallway and make sure you knock her books down (if she doesn't normally carry them then carry yours and when you bump her drop them) then when you both bend down to pick them up say something like "Wow, I've seen you in the hall a few times and thought you were kind of cute, but from up close your gorgeous" then tell her you want to chill with her after school and say "is there a number I can reach you at?" Make sure you ask for her number like that because it works 100 times better than "can i have your number", and you don't have to use that same compliment, you can use anything that you really like about her... if she is the type of girl that likes to dress impressive or look like she cares a lot about what clothes she wears (most are) then that might be the way to go... girls like that dress nice because they are hoping someone will notice and say something... you'll make her day if you tell her that her shirt/jeans look cool and she will like you a lot more because you noticed.

• Your the man!

Act like your the king of the world. Be rude, but not enough to offend. Make yourself appear dominant in everything that you do... even if your not good at it! Tom Cruise can't really kick anyone's ass, but he sure looks like he can in his flicks, right? It's all about the illusion, people would rather see something that looks good than something that works better, master the illusion and you'll master the girls. Let them think you've got money even if you don't. Make them think you get all of the girls even if you've never been laid before. This is very easy to do, be creative... you can take this as far as you want to go with it!

• Just do it... do it... DO IT!

Never ask a girl if you can kiss her! Just do it. This is one of those situations where females like to see a man that can take control and do what he wants, so show her that you've got the balls and just do it. If you ask her for permission in advance she'll think that your scared to be a man, and even if she still lets you kiss her... she'll think less of you afterward.
aritcle thanks to www.becomeaplayer.com

Flirting tips - or how to pick up and get laid the easy way 1.1

• We can't stop, won't stop...

Persistence can go a long way. When a woman rejects your initial advance it does not generally mean that you can not pick her up, in most cases it simply means that she will not let you have her that easily. To handle situations like this you can use the two minute rule : When you approach a girl you should always spit game to her for a FULL two minutes before walking away and accepting the fact that she is simply not interested... regardless of what she says during those two minutes. You will be surprised by how many women will start warming up to you within two minutes... and by using this technique you will end up with a much higher success rate than you would if you were to just accept defeat right away.

• Let me get that for you

Here is a great kino tip... for those that don't know, simply put kino means the art of flirting by touch, for more in-depth information on kino do a search on it at this site and you'll find a few good articles. On with the tip : Whenever you are with a girl and her hair is falling in her face, gently use your index finger to "pull" the hair back and place it behind her ear. When you do this rub your finger down behind her ear all the way down to her ear lobe. Girls respond very well to this and it seems to have a comforting/soothing effect on them... they love it. You can do this as often as you like and once a particular girl becomes accustomed to you doing it to them they will even look forward to you doing it. As an added bonus you can say something nice to them or give them a good compliment while you do it, which will magnify the effect.

• Isolation

When you are approaching a group of girls and you've already picked out the one that you want, the only thing that should be running through your mind is "I need to get her ALONE!". Yes, that it your first and foremost goal... to separate her from her friends. When I say alone I do not mean back at your place doing the nasty, save that for later. I mean you need to get her off to the side with you, away from her friends so that you can have a one on one conversation without anyone else around to ruin your game. Doing this also allows her to open up more and flirt with you the way that she really wants to, around her friend she will be more reserved because of the fear of them thinking that she is being slutty. Now before you even begin to isolate the girl, you first need to know that she will allow you to break her off from her group... and you do this by talking to the entire group while watching for signs of attraction from each of them. If you are not getting signals from your target girl that shows she is interested, but are getting them from one or two other girls in the group... you will either need to switch your target or forget about the approach. This is because girls tend to be very faithful to their friends when they are together, even though they are not very faithful to them when they aren't around. So if your initial target notices that one of her friends is feeling you right away, she may back down. This can not be said for all girls however, sometimes the group will go into competition mode in which they all compete for your attention... which is good. This is exactly why you first need to look for signs of attraction by talking to the entire group at first, because these type of situations can go down many different ways... and you have to be able to adapt on the spot if you want to successfully get one of them away from their friends. Once you know exactly which girl you are going to isolate, you can begin to focus your attention on her. At first begin to make eye contact with her while you are still asking questions to the entire group, then begin to ask questions directly to her... and when you feel the time is right, make the move. Say something to your target like "I want to show you something", after she says ok ask the other girls in the group "Can I borrow your friend for a second... I promise I'll bring her back". They will agree because if they do not the girl that you are trying to separate will feel as if she is being controlled by her friends which will embarrass her in front of you... in which case she will go with you anyway in an attempt to show you that her friends can not boss her around, so either way it works in your favor. Once you've got her off to the side spit game to her like a champ and get the digits, this is the easy part.

• Your ok... but your friend is better

If you notice a girl that you like but she is with one of her friends, try this approach. My favorite way to do this is to talk to the "uglier" friend first in order to make the hot one jealous... because if you talk to the hot one directly the other might like you too and get jealous... then she will do just about anything to ruin your chances with her friend - not good! Go up to the ugly one and say something like "I really like your (insert something : pants, shirt, hair... anything) then after she says thanks quickly move on to the hot one and give her a compliment also... then keep talking to BOTH of them for a while, but gradually focusing more on the hot one, until the point comes when you are only talking to her... then end the conversation by getting her number and setting up a date.
thanks to becomeaplayer.com

Seducing girls - "almost" a complete guide But very good article

Improve appearance on day to day basis. Get organized - written goals/plans. Focus on these 3 areas:
-Gym & nutrition. Girls seem to value strong/raw physique much more than genetic good looks. This alone will transform seduction from a difficult mountain climb to a walk in the park. Girls will be much more cooperative early on. It is an absolute must.
-Dress with distinct style. Take it to the extreme in clubs/disco. Groom adequately. If odor/rash problem, try 5%vinegar instead of soap.
-Improve vibe/body language habits (see app. A)

Go to coffee shop/mall/pub/bar/club at least twice a week. On your way there, first focus on total relaxing - shut down all other thoughts (especially thoughts about girls). Then consider the incredible coincidence that put you into existence. Think about how lucky you are and how great life is compared to not existing. Really feel the gratitude for being alive, and put a big smile on your face. Continue focusing on this and other things you appreciate (see app. B).

When you arrive, all happy and relaxed, your first mission is to find something inside this environment that you appreciate. Then, turn immediately to the nearest girl and tell her. Say something like "I love this song!" or "Wow.. this couch is so soft.. and I love this texture!" (rub the material slowly). If you see a nice girl, tell her immediately (no delay) . Say something like "You look happy!" or "Aww.. you are so cute!" or "Nice hair! Is it real?" or "That shirt looks good on you!"...

Do not try to observe her reaction. Just continue smiling and commenting on things. Sit/stand with your side towards her. Keep everything light and relaxed. No need to talk non stop. Mix in some teasing and humor (see app. C for inspiration).

When she starts asking about you, say "Guess". Then dodge with joke answers (see list). Then break yourself off in middle of telling. Then try _obviously_ to change the subject. Girls find this little game of secrecy very exciting.

When she starts smiling a lot, tell her she smells good. Stroke her lightly. Talk less. Sit closer.

The end.


Appendix A - Vibe/BL

Attractive body language (BL) habits:
-Posture (straight as if pulled up by the back of head)
-Relaxed (eye lids, face, neck&shoulders, breathing etc)
-Spread out (occupying much space)
-Grace (move deliberately and slightly slowed - a bit like tai chi)
-Distant (as if surroundings are not very important - see BL note in app. B)

The 3 main seductive vibes:

Alpha Male - extra slow, arching neck, extra spread out, expand torso as if air balloon inside being filled. Effective for making girls notice you.

Exercise for learning alpha BL: Close your eyes and conjure mental picture of you being leader and protector of your tribe. Notice the BL details and how powerful and dominant you look. In your mind, climb into the picture and walk over to the alpha you. Step inside and become the alpha you with your BL. Notice how it feels. Find out what color do you associate with this feeling, and where in your body this feeling comes from. See how the feeling/color flows out from this place and fill every part of your body from the top of your head to the tip of your toes. Make the feeling intense and the color bright all over your body. Imagine a volume button in the spot where the feeling comes from. Paint it in the same color and notice what it looks like. Imagine it slowly turning the feeling up to double intensity. Then gradually all the way up to 10 times as intense. From now on, turning this dial will boost your alpha vibe no matter what, so no need to think about the details.

Post Coital - extra emphasis on being relaxed and comfy. Extremely laid back and 'chill'. Slightly narrow eyes and some sleepy stretching. Totally unworried and distant, not caring about surroundings. Effective for making girls curious about you. Practice: Imagine having had crazy sex all night and now totally exhausted. Step into this image like described above.

Horny - unlike other two, strongly aware of girl (facing and looking at her). Very relaxed face with low eye lids and open mouth. Heavy breathing, lick/bite lips, let eyes wander down to girl's body. Effective for turning girls on. Practice: think of something that makes you horny and notice how it affects your BL. Intensify feeling. Intensify BL. (credit GunWitch)

Note on learning all this:
Only way to improve BL-habit is daily practice. Create a daily ritual where you first practice BL and then go into each of the 3 seductive attitudes. Do it together with something you already do every day (brushing teeth, walking to office etc..), so you never forget to practice. Make a small list of the things you want to practice, and keep it in bathroom. Also, whenever you catch yourself having bad BL (hunched, tense, hurried etc..), correct it at once.


Appendix B - Appreciate

Appreciation is to hold something in your mind with gratitude. When doing this, bad feelings are shut down and good feelings are strengthened. When a person is in this mental mode, its easy for others to see - its as if the bliss/happiness is bleeding out from every pore. Those feelings are contagious, so others will start to feel good too, even if they don't know why the person is happy. This creates a feeling of friendship and GOOD INTENTIONS. This is why appreciation is the ideal mental frame to be in when meeting new people (and socializing in general).

When focusing on things you dont have, you open your mind to the feeling of need (wanting something). This is the opposite of appreciation and leads to feelings like frustration, insecurity, sadness, discontent and so on. This is also easy for others to see, and it makes others insecure and uneasy about you. They can see you want something. They DOUBT your good intentions. This is why need is the WORST POSSIBLE frame for meeting people.

Needy people suffer from habits of seeking validation from others. Two things must be done to end this habit. The first is to focus your mind on appreciation - stop dwelling on all the stuff you want, and learn to appreciate areas that already satisfy you. Practice this every day. I recommend you do this during a daily routine like teeth brushing. Go through all the things that are going well and take moments to really feel the gratitude for each one.

Secondly, focus on appreciation when you socialize. Look actively for positive qualities in others, and let them know you noticed. Also look for positive things about surroundings or situation and talk warmly about them. Also talk about good experiences you have had lately, emphasizing how good it made you feel. Discipline yourself to steer all conversations down this path. In no time, this will transform you from a needy guy, to the type of guy everyone love to hang with.

A note on BL: Neediness (validation seeking) materializes itself as a large 'awareness radius' (how far away from yourself, you are aware of whats going on). To avoid sending out this bad vibe, try this little mind trick: Imagine a sphere around you. Everything outside the sphere doesn't exist. Then make the sphere as small as possible.


Appendix C - lines you can use or draw inspiration from

Openers:
"Wow you look happy!" (credit Rageking)
"Aww so nice hair - is it real?" (pull hair) "HEY.. it moved!" (credit Style & Mystery)
"Aww what a nice fabric/material!" (grab/touch ha piece of her clothes – credit brooklyn)
"Wow.. I can see you work out.. now and then.."
"Wow, you look incredible today - did you take a shower?" (credit Viberateher)
Bump her so almost falls, then "Are you drunk?" (credit dahunter)
"My invisible friend just told me to talk to you!"
"Aww... you are soooo cute! I want to adopt you!" (credit Papa)
"Aww you are soo cute.. but we could never be a couple - we are too much the same.. we would fight and throw things and have incredible make up sex all over the place and fight more then sex fight sex fight.. too much drama and intense feelings!" (credit TylerDurden)
"Shit! A poisonous snake bit me in the testicles - you got to help me suck out the poison - now!"

Comments:
"Bad girl!"
"Naughty girl!"
"You are trouble! I shouldn't be talking to you!"
"There is something mystical about you!"
"You look like you are hiding something!"
"I can't trust you!"
"Aww you look just like.. a little angel/princess!"

Dodge questions:
"Guess!" (credit TylerDurden)
"I'm an unemployed loser - I live with my mom."
"I'm an angel - one more good deed and I'll get my wings!" (credit TylerDurden)
"I'm a traveling underwear inspector!" (credit TylerDurden)
"I'm a freelance gynecologist - how long is it since your last check?" (credit TylerDurden)
"I'm an orgasmologist!" (credit TylerDurden)
"I'm 16 - 16 and unkissed!"
"You are.. 60! Hehe just kidding! Hey I was only kidding! You are.. 16 - sweet 16! 17 18 19! I refuse to believe you are older than 19!"

Misc:
"I lost my teddy (puppy dog face).. would you sleep with me?"
"Aww I love you.. like a sister!"
"Won't you get too aroused if I sit this close?" (credit Nathan Szilard)
"I'm hard - are you wet?"
"My bedroom has a very interesting ceiling!"
"Aww.. you are so cute.. but we could never be a couple.. my mom would never approve!"
"My mom told me to stay away from bad girls!"
"I should have listened to my mom!" (Later in sarge)
"WTF!? I got no friends! Aha.. it must be my mom!" (Cell phone rings)
"I got phone phobia - is it ok if I make my mom call you?" (During #close)
"I dont know need to ask my mom." (credit Nightblue)
"My mom told me to be home before ten." (credit Nightblue)
"I can't help it. My mother raised me too well." (if she says you are too nice) (credit Style)
"I'm soooo lonely (puppy) I got no friends and nobody wants me! Tonight I'll go to bed all alone and cry silently until I fall asleep."
"I'm no good! I cheat, lie and dump girls on valentine's day."
"I'm no good for you - he is cute - he suits you - you look cute together!"
"Yeah I'm such a looser - you should get with this guy - look how cute he is, and he really likes you!"
"My penis is extremely small!"
"I'm a virgin!"
"Girls are so scary!"
"Im shy."
"This is why nobody wants me.. big tummy" (putting belly out and tapping it) "and tiny dick" (indicate 1 inch w/fingers + sad puppy face)
"I collect trash - I'm a trash man! Trash is MY LIFE! I plan a big career in trash!"
"As always, I'm out looking for my future wife. I have NO IDEA why its so hard to find her - I only have 2 tiny requirements! I'm a modest man - I don't ask for much! A perfect body.. and she must be VIRGIN. My dick is so small! I don't want her to have anything to compare me with. It would make me so insecure! I want to be her first and only lover! She must not have a dildo either. I'm afraid the dildo would come between us!"
Get up, stretch, look around and say "I got to go" … "to the toilet" with a wicked grin.
"Are you rich? Aww I need a rich GF who can support me while I start a boy band - The Whatever Boys! But hey - I need groupies too! But you don't look like groupie material - she can be my groupie and you can be my manager! Yeah!" (credit TylerDurden)


Appendix D - Some sex advice
-Don't undress girls. Start sexing instead (rubbing and dry-humping).
-Rub slowly towards pussy but make a turn so you barely miss it.
-When rubbing pussy, just graze it.
-When licking pussy, don't dive in. Home in slowly. Lick inner thighs a lot, barely touching pussy when you change side. Take time licking areas *close* to the pussy before licking IT.
-When time to put it in, don't! Rub clit with head of cock and put only head inside. Go back and forth between rubbing and putting only head inside.
-When fucking, start *very* slow and focus on getting maximum range of motion with every thrust. Accelerate much slower than she wants to.
Article thanks to fastseduction.com

A list of 19 tips about Approaching (starting PUA)

"Mystery" put together a handy list of crucially important things to do when you approach a beautiful woman.

1. Have a canned opener ready -- This is NOT a night at the improv. Going "situational" (e.g., "it sure is crowded here" or "that's a nice purse") will rarely work. Remember
last time when we talked about how the average girl has been hit on 5,000 times before you came along? Well, most of those 5,000 guys have tried something boring and situational. Use a canned opener -- something that has been repeatedly tested with women and is proven to work.

2. 3-2-1-GO -- The three-second rule was created for a reason. When you see a girl you like, GO. Open her group within three seconds. The failure to do this will "stale you
out". Women like confidence. They don't like to be stalked. They like spontaneity. Wandering around circling her, looking at her, trying to figure out what to do next will turn her off and creep her out. Get into the habit of seeing attractive women and GO in. You've already got your opener ready, right?

3. Approach at an angle -- Do not walk straight up to the group. Approach at angle, tilt your head over your shoulders, and say your piece. Done correctly (and you almost need to see it to do it properly), you raise your value significantly by demonstrating that you do not need their attention or approval.

4. Smile on the approach -- Don't grin like a moron through the entire interaction, but smile as you walk to the set, and in the first few seconds of the opener. Smile with your eyes, not just your mouth.

5. Be loud enough -- Everyone in the group should hear your opener. Your opener should be loud enough that it cuts across whatever conversations they are already having. Don't shout, but make it socially awkward for them not to pay attention to your opener.

6. Don't lean in -- This is connected to being loud enough. You should project your voice enough that they can hear you from a normal standing position (or leaning slightly back).

7. Engage the group -- Do NOT go into a group and talk to the woman you want to meet (the target). Engage the whole group. Pay LESS attention to the target.

8. Neg the target -- You should know what negs are by now. The hotter the girl, the quicker you have to neg. I've seen Mystery open with a neg, as well as negging the target within the first 10 seconds of his opener.

There. Do those things, and you should be able to get through A1 (the opener). As soon as you spot the opportunity, shift gears into A2 (interest/attraction).

I also wanted to talk about some basic fashion and style tips.

1. Untuck that shirt -- Don't go out to a social gathering with a collared, button-down shirt that is tucked in. It's not in style. Trust us.

2. Be taller -- There are plenty of brands of very fashionable shoes and boots that give you extra height. I'm 5'10 normally and 6'1 in the kick-ass pair of black buckled dress shoes that have a couple of inches underneath. Just by itself this has made me more attractive to a large number of women and has given me a chance with some women who wouldn't have talked to me before.

3. Burn that t-shirt -- Don't wear a white t-shirt under your dress shirt. That's so late 80s. It conveys a lack of sexuality. Undo the top two buttons of your shirt (no more!) and show a tiny bit of your chest. If this exposes mounds of chest hair, then get that taken care of too. While you're at it, get rid of short-sleeved button-down shirts too.

4. Get some ornamental stuff -- Earrings, funky shoes, rings, hats, scarves, neck-chains, wrist bands, whatever. Get something. What is purely ornamental (e.g., a double breasted suit, cuff links, a peacock's tail) is sexy. What is purely functional generally is not. See what Mystery, Lovedrop, Sinn, DJ, and the Prophet look like in the field and you'll get it.

5. Make your clothes fit -- Why spend $80 on a shirt off the rack that doesn't fit if you won't spend $5-$10 to have it altered? If it doesn't fit you perfectly, spend a couple of bucks, take it to a dry cleaner/alterations place, and get them to make it fit.

6. Remove excess hair -- If you have any hint of your eyebrows touching, wax or shave them so there is separation. Nose and ear hairs are sexy to NO ONE. Make sure your sideburns, if you have them, have a neat line and definition and are at the same length on each side. Most women prefer shaved chests too, though this depends somewhat on individual preferences.

7. Squelch acne -- First, if you're still getting acne, see a dermatologist. Second, for your acne scars, consider laser skin care (expensive) or makeup (cheap). Get a female friend to help you buy a cover up stick and some powder. You can make your zits vanish for the night.

8. Whiten your teeth -- It's cheap and easy. Go through your dentist, not those white strips. No excuses.

9. Work out -- No excuses. Just do it.

10. Glasses -- Glasses are sexy on some men. They are not on most men. Try contacts or surgery. Savoy tells me that of the bootcamp students he's seen, in 8 months he's told dozens of guys to take off their glasses. Only two guys looked as good or better with their glasses back on.

11. Relax -- Have you done all of this? Great. Now you're out meeting women, don't worry about this anymore. You've done the best you can with what you have. Girls WILL notice. A 6 who takes care of himself (and looks like an 8 because of it) is infinitely more attractive to a woman than an 8 who is a slob (and stays an 8).

Article Thanks to FastSeduction.com

Approaching Women In Nightclubs

• Always Smile
• Look like your there to have fun, not to pick up women.
• Plant Seeds. Simple greetins when you pass a chick, smiling and winking at another, etc.
• NEVER hang out or be seen with the other guys who aren't dancing.
• Be different. Keep every conversation unique, ask open-ended questions, etc.
• If you're new to the club scene and nervous, set your sights kinda low. I don't mean dance with fatties or complete uglies, just don't approach the drop dead gorgeous ones first. Dancing with just ONE woman usually results dancing with every woman in the joint, even if the first one you dance with is a 6 or a 7 on the looks scale.
• The worst thing you can do is say excuse me, pardon me, or anything where you're asking for their permission for you to talk to them. Just start talking. You dont need their permission. If you start like you need their permission, then you're just another tool in the crowd.

Article thanks to theplayersociety.com

Opening lines

Start picking -up...
MAKE A GOOD OPENER
i found this list that you may find useful as well. Some Openers are shit some are very good.
but you know :everything is down to the Pick up Artist.
Anyway they might give you some ideas. In the end if other PUAs are uing them and posting them on a forum they should have some success.

MAKE A GOOD OPENER

5 Ways to Make a Great First Impression With Women

Any seduction starts before you even speak to a girl, she is making an instant judgment about you as soon as she catches sight of you out of the corner of her eye. Women are much more subtle than men and can make this judgment without you even knowing. Here is how to make a great first impression:

1. Look like you are enjoying yourself.

Most men do not enjoy themselves in bars and clubs, they stand shoulder to shoulder, checking out the women and making the occasional comment to each other. They don’t look like they are enjoying each others’ company and are just out to meet women. This creates a bad first impression. When you see people having fun, you want to join them and you have a better first impression – they appear friendlier, safer, and nicer. Even if you are not having fun, look like you are. Look happy to be in the place and try to have higher energy than those around you. Animated body language, a smiling face and exaggerated reactions are ways to look like you are having fun.

2. Do not stare or obviously check out the girls.

Don’t stand shoulder to shoulder with your friend, stand opposite each other and subtly check out the girls over each others shoulder. This is what girls do! It separates you from all the other guys.

3. Be the fun sociable guy.

If a girl sees you standing around bored and then you approach and put a smile on your face, it seems fake. If you are chatting with the bar staff, talking to men, having fun with friends, and generally being the fun sociable guy, when you talk to her, she will be much more receptive because you have demonstrated that that is how you are with everyone and that your natural character is that of a cool person that likes to meet people.

4. Don’t dress generically.

The rule here is that your clothes should be comment worthy. If a girl cannot say: I like your jeans/shirt/shoes/jacket, then it means it is either ugly or generic. You don’t need to wear outlandish stuff but it should be something that shows you have some personality and aren’t just part of the masses. If you are on a budget, the most important things are the shoes and jacket.

5. Be Well-Groomed

Women notice small details. Clean your nails, iron your shirt, wash your hair, trim your nose hair. Little things can completely put a woman off.

ARTICLE Thanks to ThePlayerSociety.com

Body Language Basics For Seducing Women

Body language is VERY important. According to studies carried out over 50% of your message comes from your body language – what you DON’T say and less then 8% of your communication comes from what you DO say.

What does this mean to you?

It is MORE significant to pay careful attention to HOW you say things, and HOW you position yourself and HOW you act than it is to WHAT you say (at least initially).

You see, you could have the BEST game in the world and be able to really get any woman to like you loads, for example online, but if you used those same winning techniques in the real world and lacked obvious confidence, lacked eye contact etc – You would simply CRASH and BURN.

Honestly, body language is SOOOO important in attracting women. Later in the course we’ll go into how you can use the female’s body language to READ her mind and know what she’s thinking. This article is about YOUR body language.

Ok… So, I’ll cover the basics as the advanced stuff is beyond the scope of this article (if you want more advanced detail concerning body language you can check out my site: eBook ).

Body language basics:

1. Smile

You have to make the female feel at ease and comfortable that you are a friendly and fun guy and you are not a psycho as quick as possible. Especially when talking to her for the first time. You also need to let her know that you are confident and comfortable around women. A big and genuine smile is the best way to do this. It works. In fact, if you ever get an Ice Queen that you can tell is about to give you the “dead eye”, give her a big smile. Practice smiling at random people. You’ll be surprised by how many people smile back and at how many doors open to you. Smiling WORKS. Just don’t make it a cheesy, fake smile ;)

2. Eye contact

As you know there’s nothing worse than staring at a woman’s chest – or even looking. It makes you just like all the other guys who drool over her. If anything you should use all your skill to NOT look at her chest – she’ll wonder why her womanly powers don’t work with you and she’ll seek your attention and subconsciously TRY to get you to look!

When talking to her, try to uphold eye contact. Not too much because it can be intimidating, but if you aim to have eye contact with her around 70% of the time you are talking, this should be comfortable for most women. Don’t stare like a crazy man, just be natural but if you naturally look away or are slightly shy when it comes to eye contact, make a conscious effort to have a little more. Eye contact can make serious connections within people. They say the eyes are a window to the soul and I think there may be some truth to that. There are even speed dating type events being run that involve just staring into each others eyes – and from what I hear, they are pretty successful.

Maintain eye contact. Not too much, about 70% of conversation time. Be natural.

3. Upright posture

Guys can get away with a bit of a hunch, but women really do prefer men with straight, upright postures. Look at all the big film actors like Pitt, Cruise etc. They all have good posture. It says to a woman you are confident, healthy, and strong (at least in mind). It’s just generally more attractive and says lots about who you are. Plus it’s good for your back and will help strengthen your back muscles making it easier to maintain.

Get into the HABIT of having an upright posture.

4. Gesticulate with open palms

You will not hear this tip anywhere else (or if you do, it was almost certainly copied from this course).

I’ve gone into in depth studies of body language and this one is a good one to use in MANY circumstances – I’ve adapted it here after solid testing to picking up women – however, some people suggest that when combined with a few other verbal and non-verbal techniques it can even give you a 50/50 chance of getting out of speeding fines!

Anyway, basically, when you are talking to a woman and trying to make a point (that puts you in a positive light) or defend yourself (for example, a girl suggests you might be a player) you talk and using your hands you have open palms facing upwards. Keep your arms in front of your body with your palms facing the sky and smile as you talk.

It works VERY well on a subconscious level to suggest you are being honest and telling the truth. And if you want a woman to begin to trust you, making her think you are being straight with her, is important.

This open palm gesticulation MUST be combined with a smile to work effectively.

Those are the basics of body language, if you'd like to learn more visit Tiffany Taylor's site by clicking here